Date:   8/10/2005 3:04:24 PM ( 19 y ago)
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URL:   https://www.curezone.org/forums/fm.asp?i=669075

<<< Moreover, I do believe that "focus on yourself" is a very dangerous advice, this girl is already focusing on herself, far too much don't ya think? She lacks love ,and she is not able to give, why give her such an advice ? what she needs is learn to relativize her point of view.>>>

Yeah, thank God I am not because I don't think I've formed myself to the point of being able to create and raise another human being. It's like marriages that happen early on in life... most don't last because each person is still growing and transforming. When you have a child, you can't give it back or get divorced from it. You are responsible for that person and making sure it becomes a good human being. Don't get me wrong, I'm sure you are able to do that when you're young, its just harder...and I DON'T look down on young mothers...I'm just glad its not me and a lot of women would agree. You can't say thats judgement, its preference!

Furthermore, you're telling this girl to not focus on herself? She already seems emotionally unstable, so she should therefore go and raise a family feeling the way she feels about life and herself? Of course she lacks love and is not able to give any...so that is purely why she needs to focus on herself, and changing her attitude and what needs to be altered in her life. Relativize her point of view? First of
all, I don't think you can use that word in that context but in order for her to alter her point of view, she needs to focus on whats wrong within herself...

<< come and tell me the same thing in a couple of decades.>>>

Not everyone waits till they're 40 to have children!!! But they do wait till they're educated and secured in a job...so just because I am getting my education now in my early 20's, I'm doomed to be unmarried and not pregnant by 40? Give me a break...


<<< all these "wise talks" , children can wait etc., seem to me just a business to make working class people lonely and unhappy, and still working hard to reach their 'happiness' .>>>

So you're saying its wrong for society to deture women away from pregnancy before they are ready? And while you may be an exception, many women aren't ready at 20 or even 25! Lack of financial support may still be a problem when you are surrounded by loved ones because some families don't want to pay for their children's children! I definitely don't want my mom supporting me and my baby when I have one, I want to be able to do it myself, as an independent individual.

I think it is EXTREMELY unfair for you to compare having children with the support of family to being painful and lonely?!?!?! That's ludacris to say that if you're not having children, you're in pain and lonely. NOT EVERYONE WANTS CHILDREN RIGHT AWAY. You can be successful and single when you're young...thats what being young is all about! Being able to go out and have fun and at the same time not have to worry about anyone but yourself!!!

I'm sorry but those wise talks are beneficial to me and A HELL OF A LOT OF women and I sense that you might be a bit jealous of your sister because you are BLATANTLY LOOKING DOWN ON WOMEN WHO DON'T WANT TO SETTLE DOWN right away...claiming that all of us are going to be lonely and sad..thats a generalizationg that is NOT TRUE and really makes me mad...


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Au Contraire! I don't know who you are associating with but anyway, I SEE MANY MANY YOUNG MOTHERS THAT ARE UNHAPPY!

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Ok, with all due respect to your sister...NOT ALL COLLEGE STUDENTS ARE PAMPERED AND HAVE HEARTS AS COLD AS STONE...and you are completely generalizing all college students to be that way.

I see you as a very close minded individual and I really hope you aren't teaching your children that being indpendent and not rushing into parenthood means that they're going to be bad people!!! Because it is SO NOT TRUE...

I can go on and on but its just going to make me more angry and frustrated because your responses are so unintelligent its not funny...




 

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