Date:   5/30/2005 9:17:04 AM ( 19 y ago)
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URL:   https://www.curezone.org/forums/fm.asp?i=668711

I am in a very similar boat as you, but only for 6 years instead of in the teens. My husband is nothing like the Prince Charming of my dreams, but trully an older version of my Dad and that man I swore I would never marry but hey, I did and so here I am. There is a difference between my parents marriage and my marriage and that is I am not my mother. I speak up for myself even if that means causing a fight. I have proven to my husband that I am not afraid to leave him, yet secretly I am for the exact reason of money. Isn't that just twisted and sad? I could not provide to my children what they have because of the amount of money he earns. So I stay and muddle through. I once loved my husband deeply and now I have so much resentment that I am finding that loving place a tough one to reach.

My husband has no respect for me because I am a stay home mom and this was something he asked me to do, though of course I didn't argue. He is so selfish too that he spent $60,000 without so much as blinking and landed us into huge financial issues, but he never told me about it... I discovered it by mistake.

Just because we are women, staying home to raise our children does not mean that we are doormats for the husband to wipe his feet. We feel, we breath, and we have needs too. If he isn't willing to listen to you then act and if he can't see the act seek counseling and if he won't go their with you then seek a new place to live. If not for yourself think about what your daughter is getting from your marriage? They absorb and see more than you may be aware.

Good luck
 

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