Date:   5/17/2005 12:54:42 PM ( 19 y ago)
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URL:   https://www.curezone.org/forums/fm.asp?i=668694

Many sound posts here. I agree with all you said.
Many men become bitter after a first divorce which he wiofe takes half their money. What they forget is that usually these wives married them when they wer eboth young and hd very little, and lived by his side sometimes for decades. Even if the man made more money, that was a partnership.

I am still waiting for the godammn pre-nup. I will not sign ANYTHING that is not fair to me. I told him the law protect hisn assets as they are now before the wedding and he said that is up to a judge; so therefore not valid.
I found a woman lawyer who was highly recommended. I have to be very careful.

I am also feeling a tad better now, and I will explain why: I lost the fear (partially) of leaving him if the does not agree with a fair pre-nup or me not signing it. I do not want to move from the house we co-own because of my teenage daughter who loves her school and friends. I also work 7 minutes away.

I cannot afford the house by myself (cannot get such big loan. So I proposed to him that if we break up, he can move out and I will assume sole responsability for the mortgage. He will be co-investor in this house (which is in a prime area). In 2008, when my daughter graduates, we sell the house and I move to an apartment IF I AM NOT ALREADY IN A NEW relationship, which is very probable since it;s easy for me to attract men.

So now I feel more in control. I will not upset my daughter and will be close to work. I am happy he agreed to this deal. I think it''s a consideration after all the years I spent with him.

He wanted to postpone the wedding because of this pre-nup. I think he brought it to me too late. It's 2 months away! Now, I hate how when you google pre-nups most of the hits are in favor. Men with assets do NOT marry without them and my fiance has quite a bit. So I cannot blame him entirely, but will not sign anything so one sided.

As for the racing, he wants me to go with him....but it's tough. I hate it. I wish I had my own hobby but my favorite hobby is being with him.
 

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