Date:   5/3/2005 1:53:36 PM ( 20 y ago)
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Yes, I am planning to start a second Masters in September. After I finish, I will be more competitive in the job market and be able to support myself better. My daughter has 3 more years of College, and then she is going to Medical School. By then she will have to get her own loan. If I could put up with things until I finish my masters and not depend on him financially it would be the best arrangement. Few men are willing to support you on that and he is. He even said I could quit my job and take more courses so I could finish it quick. I live in a very expensive county, even gas it through the roof. A 2 bedroom apartment is now almost 300k, so you can have an idea. See, he is not too bad. If I am nice to him and close my eyes to the selfishness and don't complain and do all the domestics things he hates to do (like pick up HIS clothes!) while working all day, then he will be nice back, maybe even a little romantic. But it is hard for me to keep my mouth shut or look the other way. I have a strong personality and with this relationship I decided I would talk, communicate and not sweep things under the rug as I did in my first marriage.

Yes, it's hard. I could regret leaving later (when I found men who were worse than him, real jerks) or when I could not provide for my daughters. I would hate to put my 14 year old in a gang school.
Funny enough I was raised by my parents to be self sufficient and to make my own money, never depending on a man. But I married young and wasn't too career oriented. I was a Mom more than anything.
We have our good moments and he can be affectionate too (only never with words). He shows love by fixing my computer, fighting with credit card companies for me, fixing my car. I know there are better men out there, as there are worse too.
He takes me for granted; he knows I need him.
Thanks for your input.
 

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