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Re: crack & alcohol addicted boyfriend who I called police on - I still love him and can't seem to let go by #4715 ..... Codependency & Addictive Relationships & Love Addiction

Date:   2/19/2005 11:20:44 PM ( 19 y ago)
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You have to realize that your affection for your boyfriend is self-detrimental and that you are wasting your heart by giving it to someone who clearly does not deserve it, but also that you are accepting mistreatment,...why, do you feel that you deserve to be mistreated? First, anybody who asks another person to commit a crime and lie to the police is:
1) disrespecting the other person (let alone not loving them).
2) USING the other person.
3) insulting the other person (and their intelligence by convincing them that it would be a good and loving thing to do).
4) putting them in jeopardy.
5) convincing them not to have any self-respect and conditioning them to accept further mistreatment and abuse.


This boyfriend has even conditioned you to accept violence from him. Develop your self-respect and realize that his mistreatment and abuse is not normal and should not be tolerated or accepted. You are being his patsy. The real crime here is what you are doing to yourself. Start placing more of a value on your heart (do not cast your pearls before swine).
 

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