Date:   9/6/2004 2:35:55 PM ( 20 y ago)
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URL:   https://www.curezone.org/forums/fm.asp?i=666991

WOW

I'll have to say that I am at a point in my life where this is a fairly open wound. I never had issues in this area before, was married to someone who's eyes were everywhere - all the time - (I am almost through a divorce after 10 years) and now I am so sensitive to this that I cannot tell you how much it hurts.

Although it is somewhat helpful to hear other womens pain about this, I really need to get to some healing point about this for myself.

Self esteem ? Not much right now - but even when I did, having this happen was really distastful. I am dating someone right now who I find warm, deep and loving, but the roving eye syndrome is a killer. My body goes numb and I feel so very lost when any woman with physical attractiveness warrants an abrupt ending to our discussion/being together, while he "looks".

Why is this so strong in men!? Is it really unrealistic for me to feel that if the connection we have runs deep enough, and fulfills his need for beauty, attention, sexuality (he swears it does) then that pull would drop into the background or just not rise up?

I feel sad about ending this relationship - but will do so because the emotional pain is just too much.


 

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