Date:   1/23/2003 12:39:46 PM ( 21 y ago)
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URL:   https://www.curezone.org/forums/fm.asp?i=61572

I don't see your family as quite the villans that other posters here - especially since the predominant picture that they have of your girlfriend is the one you painted for them when you told them all the problems you were having and left out the good things about her and your relationship. Since hurtful words were exchanged between your girlfriend and your mother this only reinforced all the negative things you had shared with your family previously. You're right that it was a BIG MISTAKE and good thing that you realised it - although it will probably make for a bumpy road with this relationship if you plan on having a future with this girl. Your mother's response is a controlling one, but it does sound like you have relinquished a lot of control yourself.

Sounds like you already know that it is best to keep things quiet with your family for the time being. They need time to cool down and you need to sort this out with your girlfriend and do a lot of soul-searching yourself. Seeing a therapist is probably a good idea. You might want to ask yourself why you chose to share so many negative things with your family about your girlfriend and leave out the good stuff. How would you expect them to respond to her under those circumstances? You should also ask yourself where you want this relationship to go - if you're planning on a future with this girl it is going to take a lot of time and work to mend the fences if it's even possible.
 

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