Date:   6/30/2005 8:25:15 PM ( 19 y ago)
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The Debate Forums are allowed to have a far greater stretch
of argumentive actions than Support Forums .
The thin line is sometimes hard to discover.

But when folks bring a "debative attitude"
to Support Forums , then that is not respectful.

Since Moderators are volunteers with good health knowledge
OR in a certain range area for a few specific forums,
that they have experience and knowledge in ,
they cannot be all places, all the time.
They have homes and families etc and personal goals as well.

It can get frustrating when posters think a forum
is being allowed to run amuck,
When in fact NO ONE on that forum has sent in even one alert message.
I truly wish more folks would utilise this method that was implemented.
Otherwise some forums get deeply entrenched in flame wars,
that could have been completely dealt with
had someone clicked the alert Webmaster button.
When you click alert webmaster,
ALL moderators get that alerted message as well.
This stops infighing as well, since then folks on the forum,
don't even know an alert has been sent and certainly not by whom.

Instead, folks fight ,
then complain Mods are biased,
when the mods might not have even seen that forum for a bit.

I am not talking about YOU .
I am trying to put out a voice here to other posters in general.

Someone above said even R's and RN's can be clickish.
I would sincerely hope that other moderators do not operate like that.

A R means recommended to read.
(means that a moderator feels this info might be useful
to a good variety of posters,
covering all areas mental / physical / health, etc,
and most especially relevant to the support forum that it is posted on )

A RN does not mean that a post is any better than a R *laugh*,
it just means that it has also been sent to Spirit
as being recommended for the newsletter.

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side note on debates:

you said this:

"but the trick to a debate is to try to let the other person see for themselves where they might be wrong... or need improving... which can sometimes prove a most difficult task...

this is ok , it is your view.

My view is,

I thought the purpose of debate was to support my view,
giving my energy as to WHY I believe X to be so.

I believe that we cannot change others, they are just as "right" in their minds,
as I am "right " in mine.
To me a debate should more reflect folks supporting their own stance than
attacking or trying to negate anothers.
When folks deviate from respectful debate it just becomes a bully fight.
( Two egos engaged in warfare so to speak lol )

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also you said:
"as you stated "wrenn" when one resists/fights these particular type people one only serve to give them fuel... the harder one resists the stronger the opposing force becomes"

This is NOT what I meant at all
when I made the statement about throwing our energy at others.

I meant it as this:

When you "throw negative energy at another person "
you are basically "attacking them"
Words are very powerful tools.
Anytime you "attack someone" in thought word or deed.
you will recieve the consequences of that back in far worse a form.

To beome enmeshed in situations that snowball and deepen,
sets up a cycle that infects every reader,
every person involved
and esp the main instigaters.

It becomes like a deadly poison spreading thru a body.
It ignites whole groups of folks into feeding the frenzy.

And EVERYONE of us (me too !) can fall prey to it,
because it is human nature.
Tho . .in hindsight we might look back and say
WHY did I get so wrapped up in that drama?
When it didn't even have anything to do with ME?

I read a good postscript somewhere recently
(slips my mind where , sorry )

but it was along the lines...

We learn good judgement thru experience,
and most of our experience was gained from bad judgements!

I thought that was excellent.

I think before we get caught up in frays,
We need to ask ourselves : Is this really MY business?
If not, leave it be and move on with living your life ,
(fulfilling YOUR Dreams)
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I truly appreciate your post so much
Thank you for allowing me to use it as a springboard
to discuss areas of my personal opinion.

NOTHING here is meant towards you at all , personally.
It just opened the door for me to elaborate in general,
about many things that I see occuring on Curezone.

USE your alert Webmaster buttons, folks 8)
There is no need to start potential debates by ALERT posts, etc,
when you can simply click the button.
Help us help you .
Read posting guidelines before posting or before alerting.

Thank you so much for allowing me the space to broach these topics

Ami Joi Benton
Curezone Team Member







 

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