Date:   8/18/2002 2:53:50 PM ( 22 y ago)
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URL:   https://www.curezone.org/forums/fm.asp?i=60275

Well...

I can understand that, because basically it means...

a) he's not in tune with you
b) he's probably never pleased anyone else, either

But understand that we live in a society where it's "not OK" for a guy to be experimental and figure these things out. If a guy has bought into the heterosexual thing, then he's chained himself into thinking that there are certain things he can and cannot -- should not -- want to do.

Let's take, for example, anal sex. There was a time when I considered that this would be potentially pleasurable for the top -- the guy -- but that it would be completely unpleasant, or perhaps merely tolerable, for the bottom -- male or female. When I finally discovered that it was actually pleasurable in its own unique way, I lost all aversion to the idea.

But no one ever told me, and I certainly had no idea, that anal sex is a pleasurable thing for the woman! I had figured it was some sort of punishment-type sex that some guys would get off on, in a sort of "hurt your partner" kind of way. I wanted no part of that!

When you find "the one" for you, you probably won't mind having to play teacher. And I promise you, once you break through those walls and start removing his inhibitions, he has a thing or two to teach you, too. He'll get experimental in ways you hadn't yet considered, and you (and he) will be pleasantly surprised...

It's rare that something worthwhile was ever achieved without working for it. It may not be "fair", but the potential rewards make the game worth playing.

=-John-=

 

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