Date:   10/16/2003 4:46:15 PM ( 21 y ago)
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Hi, my fiancée has had a previous relationship where her boyfriend invaded her privacy and blew up about things he found. She has made it clear to me many times. One day I had opened up the "History" portion of internet explorer and seen what websites she was visiting, how often she was emailing her old boyfriend, etc.. I didn't get mad or anything, it was an accident anyway. But a little bit later I was in a small fight with her, and I decided to take a look at the history again to see what she's been up to.

Knowing that I shouldn't be doing it, I set her up with her own account on the computer. But again we had a fight, and I just happened to know how to browse her history anyway, and so I did.

Last night I related my transgressions to her, although I skipped the fact that I had done it more than once (on purpose). She was SO infuriated and I had to really fight to keep her from leaving me. After a lot of talking, she decided to forgive me. I have sworn (and I am serious) that I will never do anything like it again.

Now my problem is, do I need to relate to her that I did do it more than once, or should my confession that I did do it, and my promise (as long as I keep it) that I won't do it again, be enough?

As well, she had asked me never to look her up online (ie; doing a Google for her name), again due to the whole privacy concern. I did that as well, and I feel awful for it. I will never do it again. She knows I betrayed her trust on the other issue, but not on this one.

If I tell her the second one, I know I will lose her, and there will be nothing I can do to get her back this time. As long as I keep my promise that I will never invade her privacy again, should I tell her about these. Or should I just never do it again and keep my secret?

Any help appreciated.
 

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