Date:   9/6/2003 4:43:12 PM ( 21 y ago)
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URL:   https://www.curezone.org/forums/fm.asp?i=594748

I guess a part of me can understand when some of u say you wouldn't tell or want to hear but personally I don't think you can have a stable relationship if you are harboring secrets. Cetrain things I understand, like if your wife/girlfriend says "Do I look Fat" if she does appear to have put on weight there is no need to make her feel worse about it. That being said there is a big difference between little things like that and huge things like infidelity. I do not believe in keeping secrets because it will tear you apart inside. I took the risk that i might have lost the woman I love because of my mistake. The thing is that, It was my mistake, I put myself there so I had to face the consequences. That is a part of being an adult. Children make mistakes and then keep secrets to avoid getting in trouble. I am not a child and I had to face that. I am disturbed that a few of you feel that it is better to keep secrets. I hope that you are not in relationships because if you are I don't know how u can truly share your love with your partner if you feel keeping secrets is the best way to go about things because if that is the case what if your partner feels the same way, they might be leading another life sleeping with a ton of people but I guess you will never know and apparently don't want to. I can't live like that, I hope to spend the rest of my life with this woman so by being honest I can show her that even though I betrayed her I am still honest and therefore she dosen't have to worry about me not telling her the truth. Think about it, if u are with someone and they are unfaithful, in one scenario they tell you right away they sincerely appologize and assure you it wont happen again. In the other scenario they dont tell you right away and it either comes out later or you somehow find out. Which person do you trust more? The one who was upfront and honest or the one who kept the secret. I would hands down trust someone who came right out with the truth, in fact I feel I may have even gained more of her trust in the long run. Of course she will be upset for a while and we will have a lot of rebuilding but thats what relationships are about. I do not regret my choice to be upfront and honest one bit.
 

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