Date:   1/14/2005 7:22:08 AM ( 20 y ago)
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hello all this is my first post on this site. i am not so familiar how to respond but there was an earlier post titled " why should i care" about this 34 year old woman whose mom lives next door to her in a duplex and is still abusing her. listen i was violently beaten and emotionally tortured by my mother my entire childhood. i finally ran away at 16 to escape it because i feared if she did not kill me on purpose then she would kill me accidentally. it is still affecting my life today and i am 48 years old. like you i tried to maintain a relationship with her anyway, needing desperately to please her well into my thirties and still sometimes even now. i was 37 the last time she put her fist in my face and threatened to knock my teeth out. she actually did knock 2 of my baby teeth out when i was little. i was like you, an only female child. i am going to give you my opinion...wheather you move to pursue your daughter's acting or not i would stop living next door to my mother. even if you only move across town you must remove yourself and your family from the daily sh*t you are still putting up with. you sound depressed and believe me living next door to her keeps your wounds open. i am not saying you have to dump her. (even though you probobly should. i cant do it to my mother either.) just put some distance between you. focus on your own life with your own family. its not fair to them to have you caught up in what sounds like a constant drama between you and her and her boyfriend. anyway i am going to tell my story here soon. you may want to read it as i can see we share some of the same feelings. i wonder why my father didn't protect me. he just let it happen, watching me bruised and beaten the whole time. the same way your mom watched her boyfried hurt you. this has made for some terrible feelings about myself i am still trying to deal with. it amazed me that like me you are able to remember things so young like back to 2 years old. i guess when things are so traumatic you can remember them that far back. so my opinion is to move from living next door to her. if you own the duplex and she rents from you then tell her she will have to move. then go rent her a truck and help her pack. i am so sorry you have suffered this way. trust me i KNOW what you are feeling.





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hello all this is my first post on this site. i am not so familiar how to respond but there was an earlier post titled " why should i care" about this 34 year old woman in california whose mom lives next door to her in a duplex and is still abusing her. listen i was violently beaten and emotionally tortured by my mother my entire chilhood. i finally ran away at 16 to escape it because i feared if she did not kill me on purpose then she would kill me accidentaly. it is still affecting my life today and i am 48 years old. like you i tried to maintain a relationship with her anyway needing despeartely to please her well into my thirties. i was 37 the last time she put her fist in my face. i think this was because like you i was an only female child. i am going to give you my opinion...weather or not you move to pursue your daughter's acting or not i would stop living next door to my mother. even if you only move across town you must remove yourself and your family from the daily sh*t you are still putting up with. you sound depressed and believe me living next door to her keeps your wounds open. i am not saying you have to dump her. (even though you probobly should. i cant do it to my mother either.) just put some distance between you. focus on your own life with your own family. its not fair to them to have you caught up in what sounds like a constant drama between you and her and her boyfriend. anyway i am going to tell my story here soon. it amazed me that like me you are able to remember things so young like back to 2 years old. i guess when things are so traumatic you can remember them that far back. so my opinion is to move from living next door to her. if you own the duplex and she rents from you then tell her she will have to move. then go rent her a truck and help her pack. i am so sorry you have suffered this way. trust me i KNOW what you are feeling.
 

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