Date:   4/28/2004 3:35:28 AM ( 20 y ago)
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URL:   https://www.curezone.org/forums/fm.asp?i=56354

My advice is not to let your response be ruled by fear or other negative emotions
Step back from this a minute and look at it from afar. react with love in your heart, not fear

A boy awakening sexually has an interest in female anatomy and so has explored it with his sister. He knows it's wrong because he told her not to tell

He already knows it's taboo, so if it is reinforced by everyone else's reaction he is more likely to continue to develop an unhealthy interest

Give him clear guidance but with love and humour, this will defuse the situation

Explain the family position (i.e. you do not touch your sister that way) and explain society's position ( they put people who do that in prison - not as a threat just fact)


Don't make him feel guilty or punish him unduly, ( or threaten him undue punishment by obsessive authorities) Give him your trust and he will feel he must keep it, take it away and he will feel like a criminal, and act accordingly




 

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