Date:   7/9/2006 5:48:38 AM ( 18 y ago)
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URL:   https://www.curezone.org/forums/fm.asp?i=536650

I have been married twice, both for 10 years...the first ended when my husband 'came out' and asked for a divorce; the second marriage is (still) wonderful. I'm certainly not trying to tell you how you should think (or that there's anything wrong with how you're thinking!); I just saw this thread and thought I'd add some of my thinking :)

I would never blame (or have any type of anger toward) any person a husband of mine had an affair with...for any reason. Why? Because a promise was made between two people, my husband and myself. No other person promised me 'jack squat'.

A person could lay down stark naked with spread legs in front of any mate of mine, and if my mate chose to enter enter sexual relations with them it would mean (to me) one of two things: either my mate had no respect for me, the promise he made to me, and the sanctity of our relationship as husband or wife; OR his sexual needs weren't being met, and he wasn't able to communicate that to me (or did communicate that to me, and I failed to respond in a way that met his needs), to the point he felt he had to look outside of our relationship for sexual satisfaction (or both reasons combined). Either way, that has NOTHING to do with another party outside of my union. "The other woman" is nothing. What matters is/would be the actions, attitude and reason my mate had for breaking the most solemn vow another human can make to another.

'Just my thoughts.

Unyquity

 

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