Date:   6/12/2006 9:11:17 AM ( 19 y ago)
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Seems ironic that I of all people should be the one to take an active part in this discussion, as I'm hardly an advocate of free sex. But never mind that.
Once again eksangha, I find it inspiring that you personally overcame your obstacles to your own relationship, but we can not expect that everyone else will have the same results.

If these folks were already married, I would also be advising them to try and work things out, and I would be searching for possible solutions to their woes to prevent them from geting a divorce as long as possible. But this is not the case!!!! Three months is a very short time while still in the process of courtship. I could even jump on a christian bandwagon here and say that they should be waiting until after marriage to have sex, but I won't, because these are my values that I hold for myself, not ones that I can hold over anyone else who doesn't share my faith, so NO, I won't.

All love is not manifested the same, not from a biological, moral or religious standpoint. (include here just about any major world religion please) The love that a mother has for a child produces certain physical manifestations in the mother, like an innate ability to sense when baby has woken up or is in discomfort, and wake mommy up out of a deep sleep. Mommy will begin to lactate as soon as baby needs to be fed even if they are not in the same location. There are many more examples of this. The same mommy will have totally different physical manifestations when daddy comes home and hugs her and hands her a bunch of flowers for no reason at all. Point is, in a lofty spiritual sense, yes, all love is the same, but we are not angelic beings floating around on earth, we are flesh and blood and in the purest sense as well, we have physical needs and manifestations. To sugggest that the love that unrelated grownups should have for one another should be the same as for children, is misleading and terribly unhealthy. We can not change the rules for humanity simply because it worked on one isolated case.

I'm not here to argue with eksangha, so much as I'm concerned about the many young and inexperienced people that come on this board. I will be the first one to gripe about the oversexualization of our society. I do not believe that North America is sexually repressed as many do, that is nonsense. America is overstimulated by Hollywood, Madison Avenue and the p 0 r n industry. But a deviant presence in our society does not mean there isn't a healthy, beneficial and righteous counterpart in existance. Long live strong marriages and loving parenthood!! With all that they each imply individually.

 

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