Date:   7/20/2004 4:51:00 PM ( 21 y ago)
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Sounds like you're doing it an awful lot. It has to be getting in the way of other pursuits. Also seems like 2-3 times a month sex with you wife is giving her the short end of the stick. I would not like that if it were me. Also, it is difficult to believe that you manage 2-3 times a day at home. When you do that in other places (work, your car, etc.) you are taking a huge chance of being caught and facing bad consequences.

My husband has recently been in treatment for p 0 r n o g r a p h y addiction and during that it came out that he has been playing with yourself, spanking the monkey constantly as well. Explained a lot to me. He never had much energy left for sex with me. I feel very cheated. I am very interested in sex and like it very much and frequently. I have tried to talk to him about what would make it great for him and tried to tell him what makes it great for me. When I ask questions, he is too reserved in his answers, as if I would be disgusted by his responses. When I tell him what I would like, he acts like I am being critical and demanding.

I have read that many men and women may spank the monkey frequently because it is easier than having sex with a partner. It is fast, they know just what to do to get themselves off, and they don't have to deal with another person's pleasure. If they are doing it very frequently, too frequently, no one has to know that they have a problem.

People also spank the monkey to give themselves a "fix". Stress getting you down? Go whack off. Trying to forget something that's bugging you? Go whack off. Bored? Go whack off. Resentful? Unhappy? Low self-esteem? You name it, you can ignore it when he are having an orgasm.

self-gratification is sometimes addictive. There were lots of guys in my husband's group therapy that could not control their impulses to spank the monkey and (as stated above) they were facing some real, real serious problems in their lives as a result of that. They also revealed histories of escalating behavior and sexual problems that started with playing with yourself, spanking the monkey too much.

Something to think about, isn't it?!
 

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