Date:   3/30/2004 4:25:11 PM ( 20 y ago)
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First of all, no one is laughing at all.

I realize that is just sort of a psychological need, to sort of shrug off your hurt and pretend that it isn't a big deal.

But it is a big deal, or you would not have written.

Contrary to popular BS put out by the freaky women at the TOP of the so-called "feminist" movement (but really just another political movement by left wing socialist enemies to drive a wedge between REAL men and REAL women)......why?...Divide and Conquer........keep people fighting the wrong issues, etc....men are NOT "just out for one thing" Not true at all.

But I digress.

Let me illustrate how and why ANY guy (more guys than you can imagine) are FAR more "scared" before first sex than women.

No, I am serious. Women who are "loose", and your girl friend (are you SURE about her?) certainly fits that bill, THEY are the agressors. Even the dainty little white dress and gloves ladylike lookin gal is VERY adept at seducing men, while all the while making it appear the other way around.

Here is the story, and to illustrate that sometimes, the smallest thing, a smell, a sound from another room, or especially some dumb witch of a woman who would "angrily ask if you ever got hard", can totally wipe you out, and believe me , NOTHING will "fix it'. You are NOT going to "get hard" after that.....WITH THAT PERSON.

AND STOP THAT INCESSANT self-gratification !!

People used to make jokes years ago about the damage that could be done by that, and everyone laughed and said: "yeah, right".

Sadly, those old tales were based upon fact.

You CAN do harm with too much self-gratification and the re healing takes some effort, not the least of which is the need to abstain while you treat the KIDNEYS and Adrenal glands, for there is a strong connection between kidneys and the sexual system. Ask any Chinese educated doctor.

Anyway, every guy is scared at first, and MORE than most women who are agressive enough to be "ready for you". That alone can give you a mental scare.

(I SPENT TWO HOURS ON YOUR POST, SAVED IT ..WHY? DON'T KNOW, BUT I WILL JUST LEAVE THE GIST OF IT. SADLY, THE BACKGROUND IS VERY IMPORTANT.........OH WELL...)


(Snipped out ten paragraphs)
So we went out about twelve times, plus I would get her kids when she was late, take them to her mothers, buy Pizza, whatever it took to do what I always do.......

And on that night, while I was prowling around her kitchen to see if she'd like a sandwich, since we went to a concert and missed dinner, she said, from her bedroom

"Would you rather have a sandwich than sleep with me?"

SCARE!! The moment of truth. Old hat, you say, you've been with a woman before?

Hardly. One always wonders if her husband was some big p 0 r n kind of a guy, or other guys.

It was not easy, as much as I loved her by then and wanted to give her what she had never had....

Finding at an earlier time, that when that old mental fear started to take over, and rips off the blood that needed to go to the ole organ, and gives it to the scared brain instead, that a woman rear view would often overwhelm any blood theft, and it worked like a miracle, and the scare was forgotten "long enough".

Once there, I gave her the tenderness and love that she deserved and she had the first REAL O of her whole life, she had a "twinge" at an earlier times, but NOTHING like THIS..and that had been twelve years earlier...a fluke, she thought.

So everything is perfect, right?

I thought so, but fell asleep instead of going home.

Here is the gist of the story to show you how one single thing can kill an erection. I found that her locked door, did NOT lock, and the thought that any of her kids could have come in there sent a chill down the spine.

A few days later, I arrived to find her crying her eyes out.

Immediately I tried everything I could to comfort her, but she was nearly hysterical. Finally it came out:

"I love you, and have to tell you something, and I know your code of honor, and know that you will leave me, and I am going crazy to think about it"

Cancer? What? A Disease? All the things that you think.

"No, I need to tell you that I am married".

B L O W T O T H E G U T S

"How could that be?...you never said, where is he, where's he been?......(ready to choke up myself, plus being angry at the same time, for my code of honor would never have allowed me to sleep with another person's wife)

"VIETNAM", says she, "But no, he's back now"

I DAMN NEAR SHOT MYSELF OVER THAT ONE....since I am a combat veteran myself.

Not to mention the thoughts of what he could legitimately done to me........I probably would have not lifted a finger,for guilt runs deep.

And now, since he was "around town" for the past two weeks, ALL I COULD THINK OF WAS THAT FAULTY LOCK ON THAT DOOR, AND THAT HE PROBABLY STILL HAD A KEY TO THE PLACE.

Well, explanations were given...she had not been "with him" since even before he went, she tried to serve papers, etc but he went over there, etc etc.

(CUT OUT ANOTHER TON OF PARAGRAPHS)

I'd like to say that I left forever, but I loved her, and in a couple of weeks, she said that the papers had been signed, etc.

So we began laughing and going out again.

And she wanted to have "real love" , and certainly I did as well.

But the minute things got close, that now implanted fear manifested, and there is no way that an erection could take place.

Funny? Hell no. A stunning woman, whom you have given a real O and the tenderness that a woman deserves, wants you and you cannot be with her, from that single event?

The answer: Yes.

So I faded out , but called her every few months to check on her and the kids, and each year on her birthday I took her out...once we all went to Lake Tahoe...separate rooms of course, and when she sneaked into my room after they had gone to sleep, I hoped with all my heart that the incident would leave my mind.

But it did not.

My long time lady love before her? who re upped our relationship after that horrible period?

Hot and ready. Me? Not one problem at all.
How could this be? I wish I knew. I saw S again in a year, but this time we just had fun and then a cry talk. She loved me.

Strange. Nope. The mind is what BEGINS sex, and damned sure ENDS sex as well.

I still have this spot of poignant love for her after thirty three years. It's amazing how one thing could place such destruction on what was a loving romance up till then, AND a friendship that lasted for years after that night, even annual dates on her birthday, etc. Life is Strange indeed, and sex can create the damndest situations .......

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Stop trying to be superman and concentrating on the SEX aspect of relationships. You can do harm to your mental and physical self with this need to prove yourself some sexual master.

FIND A WOMAN TO LOVE FIRST, BE FRIENDS WITH FIRST.

Your sexual apparatus was designed to be used judiciously. Don't be fooled by that damned p 0 r no stuff.

IT'S ACTING, remember.

They don't show you the washed up women, drugged out, wearing diapers for their butt, because they used their butt for purposes for which it was not intended, and damage was done, not the least of which is "leakage".

Keep in mind that those things are designed to appeal to the lowest and most base part of the human sin nature, the better to keep you coming back, just like any other drug.

And like drugs, p 0 r n gives an utterly false picture of what REALLY loving a woman is all about.

Let your sex apparatus rest and take heed of the need to nutritionally regain your sexual health, and instead, learn all you can about LOVE. Real love.

Hate poetry? Think it's sissy? It ain't.

Some of the greatest manly men ever, wrote or read poetry.

I write poetry myself...love kind......and often, military and kill the enemy kind.......

Read some love poetry.

Learn perfect manners, as was once taught to ALL, now hopelessly forgotten.

Learn about other things in which women find interest.

Learn respect, and let it begin with SELF respect, for you need that a lot.

Learn humor, learn CLEAN jokes.

Straighten up your language, especially around women, but guys like me hate bad language just as much.

Learn to be a gentle man, as well as a gentleman.

Beautful sex will find YOU when you take care of the above things first, for you will be a much sought after man, and it won't be because you have a big "thing".

It will be because you are now adhering to proper principles.

Signed:

ManWhoKnowsWomenVeryWell

AND how quickly firm can change to soft, for the strangest reasons, and can apply ONLY to that person.
 

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