Your fear is not without bases. Your fear is good.
Fears have purpose in our life. Fear of height protects us from falling from a tall building or a tree. It saves our life. Without fear, we would have jumped and died or got injured. Fear of speed protects us from crashing our cars.
Just like the fear of height, the fear of being a victim of violence is real, especially since that guy is out of jail. Especially because of what happened before.
You are afraid of him cause you are weak!! At least you are weaker then him.
Because you would not feel weak, you would feel STRONG!!!!!!.
You would still be afraid of a lion or an elephant, or a crocodile, but not of human.
Strength gives confidence and confidence leaves no space for fear.
Elephants are not afraid of lions.
Large crocodiles are not afraid of lions.
"War will never cease until babies begin to come into the world with larger cerebrums and smaller adrenal glands." ~ H. L. Mencken
Strength gives confidence.
What can you do to gain confidence?
You can start exercising, and in 7-10 years you can become an expert in martial art, and you will definitively gain a lot of confidence.
This is something that you should do in any case.
It takes time.
How to feel secure today?
"A thorn defends the rose, harming only those who would steal the blossom."
-Chinese proverb
Get a thorn!
Get a weapon. There are many weapons, designed for protection and designed to give confidence.
"We are going to have peace even if we have to fight for it." ~ Dwight D. Eisenhower
"The supreme art of war is to subdue the enemy without fighting." ~ Sun Tzu
Pepper Spray: Pepper Spray or OC (Oleoresin Capsicum) is a derivative of hot cayenne peppers and is the newest defensive spray agent. Contact with mucous membranes (eyes, nose, throat and lungs) will cause immediate dilation of the capillaries of the eyes, resulting in temporary blindness and instant inflammation of the breathing tube tissues. (you may need a few of those, one in every pocket, one in your car, one in your personal bag...). An ideal weapon for protection. Legal in most countries. But, not for everyone. You need strength, practice and confidence if you are going to use it.
Tear Gas: There are three major chemicals used as tear gases:
1. CS
2. CN
3. CR
The first two are CS and CN, short for orthochlorobenzalmalononitrile and chloroacetophenone, respectively.
A third, code named CR (dibenz(b,f)-1,4-oxazepin), has not come into civilian use.
Both CS and CN tear gas are synthesized chemicals known as lachrymators. A lachrymator is a substance that produces profuse tearing.
At standard temperature and pressure, these chemicals are actually white crystals with fairly low vapor pressures, not gasses, and they are not very soluble in water. In order to disperse them, they are suspended in a liquid carrier and aerosolized.
Pepper Spray vs. Tear Gas
Pepper spray is not tear gas. Tear gas is not pepper spray.
Pepper spray is a defense spray. Tear gas can be used as a defense spray.
Two important differences between pepper spray and tear gas are:
1. Tear gas is an irritant, and therefore its effectiveness relies mainly on pain compliance.
Pepper spray is an inflammatory agent. The response to contact with pepper spray is involuntary which makes pepper spray a very effective weapon against drug or alcohol impaired assailants or animals that may not respond to pain.
As Doug Lamb writes in "Tactical Use of Defense Sprays" - "When a person is sprayed with OC pepper spray, two things happen instantly. First, the person’s eyes clamp shut, hard. Not only that, but if that person does manage to force his eyes open, the person still cannot see because the OC dilates the capillaries and causes temporary blindness. Second, an immediate fit of uncontrollable coughing doubles the person over because the OC causes instant inflammation of the breathing tissues, restricting all but life support breathing. An assailant who is sprayed with OC stops what he is doing and stops what he is thinking – period. This is true even for those who are drunk, on drugs, or psychotic."
No. Pepper sprays are rated in two ways: Percentage of Oleoresin Capsicum in the agent itself, and the “hotness” of the spray, which is measured in Scoville Heat Units (SHU’s).
The percentage of OC has nothing to do with the SHU rating, and vice versa.
One of the biggest misconceptions about pepper spray is that the higher the OC percentage, the hotter and more effective the spray. In most cases, this could not be further from the truth. The best, fastest incapacitating pepper sprays in the world are from 2% to 10% OC. The lighter the fluid, the faster is penetrates the membranes.
So, the percentage of OC is important, but even more important is the SHU rating, as the percentage has nothing to do with the actual SHU rating or "hotness" of the spray.
A pepper spray with 2,000,000 SHU’s is twice as hot as a pepper spray with 1,000,000 SHU’s.
By the way, 2,000,000 SHU’s is a substantial rating for an effective pepper spray.
The Physical Effects of Pepper Spray
Pepper Spray has four physiological effects that may be experienced:
1. Eyes – tearing, involuntary closing or complete closing due to dilation of the eye capillaries. Eyes will appear red/bloodshot for 30 to 60 minutes. People wearing eyeglasses or contact lenses will be equally affected.
2. Respiratory System – immediate inflammation, including swelling of the throat lining which can restrict the airway size. Respiratory functions return to normal within 10 to 45 minutes. The airway will be open enough to allow for sufficient oxygen flow for survival. Due to the reduced airway flow, the person will probably not receive enough oxygen to continue fighting or other sustained physical exertion. Temporary paralysis of the larynx. Uncontrollable coughing, retching, and gasping for air with a gagging sensation in the throat.
3. Effect on the skin: inflammation of the exposed skin with a burning sensation.
4. Effects on muscle coordination: pepper spray exposure may cause a person to lose balance due to the effect of pepper spray on vision.
How Can I Be Assured My Pepper Spray Will Work When I Need It?
You should get in the habit of testing your defense spray every 90 days. To do this first go outside and determine which direction the wind is blowing. Remember to always stand upwind from the direction you are spraying. Depress the firing mechanism for ˝ second. This test should be performed upon purchase and every 90 days after that. Be aware that every time you test your spray you reduce the contents of the canister. If you are using a key chain model and you test regularly you will need to replace the unit every 9 to 12 months if you follow the recommended testing procedure above.
How is Pepper Spray Made?
Pepper spray is derived from hot peppers. The oils are extracted from the hot peppers using a high-pressure process. This process leaves you with the active ingredient in pepper spray known as Oleoresin Capsicum, or “OC.” OC is a reddish-orange, oily liquid, insoluble in water. The pure pepper extract is then diluted with an inert ingredient that reduces the “hotness” of the extract to get it down to a useable level for pepper spray.
The History of Pepper Spray
Oleoresin capsicum spray was developed at the University of Georgia by Professor James H. Jenkins and Dr. Frank Hayes, D.V.M., in 1960. That formula under the brand name Halt Animal Repellent was first sold in 1963. Like tear gas, oleoresin capsicum (OC) is non-lethal and induces temporary incapacitation with no known long-term effects. In 1989 the Firearms Training Unit (FTU) of the FBI Academy in Quantico, Virginia, completed three years of intensive research on OC, following which the FBI authorized the use of OC for its special agents and SWAT teams. In addition, OC has proven effective against domestic and wild animals without endangering the animals or the environment. OC, in proper dispensing systems, has been successfully used to stop grizzly bear attacks in Alaska and pit bull dog attacks in California and Texas. The US Postal Service also issues OC to its letter carriers and animal control facilities also issue animal repellent to its officers to protect them from dog bites.
The History of Scoville Heat Units (SHU’s)
Scoville Heat Units (SHU's) is the measurement of the “hotness” of pepper.
All types of chili peppers, including green peppers, jalapenos, and habaneros, all contain an unusually powerful compound found in no other plant, an alkaloid called capsaicin.
Capsaicin is the horticultural term for the genus that chili peppers are classified. A single drop of tasteless and odorless capsaicin in 100,000 drops of water is very noticeable. In fact, capsaicin can be detected by humans at one part per million.
In 1912, pharmacologist Wilbur Scoville developed a standard for measuring the power of capsaicin: the Scoville Organaleptic Test.
Scoville measured exact weights of chili peppers and dissolved the capsaicin in alcohol. This solution was then diluted with sugar water until it was no longer detectable to the human palate. A panel of five taste testers would taste the solution and three of them had to agree before a value was assigned. If, for example, it took 1,000 parts of water to one part of capsaicin, it was said to have 1,000 Scoville Heat Units.
This method was useful for calculating the temperature of peppers used in many pharmaceutical products such has heat rubs. Today, high-performance liquid chromatography is used to measure the capsaicin content in peppers. It measures capsaicin levels in parts per million which is then converted to Scoville Heat Units (SHU’s). The pepper scale ranges from zero Scoville Heat Units for a bell pepper to 5,000 or so SHU’s for a jalapeno, to a whopping 200,000 to 300,000 SHU’s for a habanero. Pure capsaicin is 15,000,000 SHU’s.
Stun gun: A stun gun is an electrical self-defense device that uses high voltage to stop an attacker. Touching a person with the prongs on the stun gun quickly immobilizes the attacker. However, because the amperage is very low, no serious or permanent injury is inflicted. Legal in most countries.
How does a stun gun stop an attacker?
Stun guns are designed to key into the nervous system. They dump their energy into the muscles at a different frequency than the pulse waves emanating from the brain. The pulse waves coming from the brain and those from the stun gun collide at the nerve synapse' which is a type of complex processing switch adjacent to each muscle group. The resulting energy collision makes it difficult for an attacker to move and function. This causes disorientation and loss of balance and leaves the attacker in a passive and confused condition for several minutes. Still, stun guns have no significant effect on the heart and other organs.
How long does it take to immobilize someone with a Stun Gun?
As a general rule, a one-half second contact from a stun gun will repel and startle the attacker, giving some pain and muscle contraction. One to two seconds will cause muscle spasms and a dazed mental state. Over three seconds will cause loss of balance and muscle control, mental confusion and disorientation.
However, don't think about how many seconds you should hold the stun gun to your attacker. Think about it this way. Throw out what the books say and the online information you have read about stun guns. You should hold your stun gun to the assailant until they drop and you can get away and call the police, whether that may be one second or six seconds.
What is the difference between the 80,000 volt model and the 775,000 volt model?
Look at it this way, both stun guns will render your assailant helpless using non-lethal voltage from the stun gun, but you might have to hold the 80,000 volt Talon mini a second or two longer than the 775,000 volt Stunmaster. Consider this. A stun gun is effective on many parts of the body. But give yourself the best chance to get the best of your attacker. Hold the stun gun on a body part that has a lot of surface area, such as the chest, abdomen, groin, kidneys, back, etc. An area such as the arm or leg may work fine, but these body parts do not allow you the same amount of surface area that you will need to contact for a few seconds.
What does a Stun Gun feel like?
If you have ever hit your funny bone, multiply that by ten thousand and extend it throughout your entire body. The inablility to function and feeling of helplessness combined with the sensation of millions of tiny needles going through your body provides certain inherent physical, mental and emotional trauma.
Will the voltage pass from the assailant to the person holding the stun gun?
The electrical shock that emits from the stunning device will not pass from the person being stunned to the person doing the stunning. The effect is localized only in the affected area and does not pass through the body. Even if you or the attacker are wet or standing in water, you will not be shocked.
Stun guns use DC or Direct Current which is also used in a typical car battery. AC or Alternating current, however is the type of current found in your home electricity.
What type of battery works best in a stun gun?
Stun Guns are powered by 9-volt alkaline batteries. The battery that we recommend using only Energizer 9-volt Alkaline batteries. These batteries seem to work far better than other brands in the stun guns that we carry.
Will test-firing a stun gun damage the unit?
Test-firing your stun device is recommended to ensure battery life as well as practice using the stun gun. However, it is recommended not to test fire the unit more than a second or two. Firing the stun gun in the air for too long can damage the unit as it is not grounded. This does not apply when you are applying the unit to an assailant, however, because the stun gun is then grounded out on the person being stunned.
How long will the battery in my stun gun last?
A new Energizer alkaline 9-volt battery will last for quite some time in your Stun Gun or Stun Baton. Unless the unit is discharged frequently, it is no different than a flashlight. However, it is recommended to test fire the unit occasionally to ensure that the batteries are still 100% functional.
Are stun guns legal to carry in my state or county?
Stun guns are legal in most states.
Stun Guns are not legal in the following states: New York, New Jersey, Massachusetts, Michigan, Rhode Island, Wisconsin & Hawaii.
Real gun + rubber bullets: It is a real gun, it looks like real gun, feels like real gun, it scares like real gun, it sounds like real gun, but it can not kill easily. If you shoot in the air or in the ground, it can scare 99.9% of all attackers, cause it sounds real.
It can also hurt enough to give you a chance to run. It can cause permanent and dangerous injuries to eyes and face, so it is not a toy. There is a high level of responsibility when using it. Not legal in most countries.
Fake gun: can scare some attackers, but can not cause harm. With fake gun, both victim and attacker are scared.
Pocket knife: may scare some attackers, may cause injuries both to attacker and to you. Illegal in most countries.
Real gun + real bullets: the most common choice, but a very very bad choice, cause it more often hurts innocent people then those to who it is pointed at. If your child finds your gun, your child can shoot itself.
Bow and arrow: Can scare people, but can also cause dangerous injuries. Impractical, heavy, bad choice.
There are at least 50 other weapons available on the market, all you need to do is go to google.com and search ... all weapons for mass protection are sold online.
Pen Knives
Pen Knives are actual pens that could save your life. They look like an ordinary pen, but feature a 2.13 inch blade that is revealed by pulling the pen apart.
Does Not Work as a Cell Phone, only Stun Gun :)
Model 44001 ADVANCED TASER M18-L with Integrated Laser Sight, and 4 Air Cartridges
So, there is a lot that you can do to work on your fear (read your confidence).
Just heaving weapon is not enough.
"Don't count your chickens before they're hatched."
-Proverb
80% of women, if suddenly attacked, would be too scared to use wepon, even if thye would have it in their pocket.
"The quickest way of ending a war is to lose it." ~ George Orwell
You need to exercise using weapon, you need a self protection course.
"The more you sweat in peace, the less you bleed in war" – Asian Proverb
Not all weapon gives the same confidence. You need to try several different wepons to find out what gives you confidence.
Real gun gives most confidence, but is the most dangerous choice and is illegal in most countries.
Tear gas spray is easiest to get, it is legal, it is fairly safe, but still at least 20% - 30% of women would be scared of using it even if they would be holiding it in their hands, cause only way to use it is at very close proximity.
"The one who rides a tiger is afraid of jumping off."
-Chinese proverb
Stun gun comes in differnt versions and sizes, and there are some that shoot elctrodes attached to a cable up to 5 - 7 meters away.
That means that you can paralyze an attacker before attacker comes close to you.
That is as close as you can come to a gun that is not a gun.
The more powerfull gun, the large it is and that means you will not be able to carry it with you all the time.
There are many factors that you should consider.
Take a wepon in your hand, learn how to use it, practice using it, and if that gives you confidence, then you have found your weapon of choice.
And, remeber, no weapon can protect you from a large number of attackers, or from an attacker carring more powerfull wepon then yours.
Sometimes, the best wepon is not being at the wrong place at the wrong time. (read: not being alone at the wrong place, especially not during the night)
Old Chinese proverb: "The only winner of a battle is the one not taking a part"
Spirit
"The direct use of force is such a poor solution to any problem, it is generally employed only by small children and large nations. " ~ David Friedman
"The draft is white people sending black people to fight yellow people to protect the country they stole from red people." ~ 1967 ~ Gerome Gragni
"War is the only game in which it doesn't pay to have the home-court advantage." ~ Dick Motta
"War: first, one hopes to win; then one expects the enemy to lose; then, one is satisfied that he too is suffering; in the end, one is surprised that everyone has lost." ~ Karl Kraus
