Date:   5/4/2006 4:02:36 AM ( 19 y ago)
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To be frank the only way you can know 100 percent if you have caught genital herpes from recieving oral sex from a person with a cold sore is if you get tested. And often they won't be able to tell yet because it could take at least 6 months to show up on a blood test. Or you could wait to see if you have an outbreak in the next few weeks though some people don't have develop symptoms for a while.

Did your gf notice any tingling or swelling the day she gave you oral? It is contagious at that stage (which can last anywhere from a couple hours to 2 day). Though sometimes they can sneak up on you without any warning (like overnight while you were sleeping).

I would wait for a couple weeks and see if you get an outbreak. Make sure you protect yourself during this time. Use condoms, flavored condoms or unlubricated condoms with flavor lube and dental dams (don't use saran wrap). If you get an outbreak then see your doctor. If you don't you have the choice of using protection during sex (intercourse and oral!) and waiting until you get an outbreak or 6 months has passed and go in for a blood test.... or risking it and assuming you're safe.

I think it's EXTREMELY important that your gf and you are able to talk about this without it being a major issue (if you can't then that's a big problem) Most of the population gets a cold sore at least once in their life and yes it's a fact that they can and do lead to genital herpes. It doesn't mean she's 'nasty' or anything. And as far as having a diease goes, there are many people who get an STI after their first time having sex. It does not mean one is promiscuous. I know some people aren't educated in this area. As soon as you mention genital herpes they think that person must have gotten it from someone else who also had it. They don't think that it could have been passed on by a simple cold sore. This is dangerous thinking. Tell your gf this because it's something she needs to understand.

If this is really stressing you out then I highly suggest talking to your doctor (hopefully a good one). It's important to find some clarity.

And remember how important it is to protect yourself during oral sex when one of think you might be getting a sore!
 

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