Date:   6/4/2003 12:53:01 PM ( 21 y ago)
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It is heart breaking to see so many people in this forum having problems with their relationships. To have a wonderful and very meningful relationship with someone is hard, because both have to keep eachother happy and always give 100% to their 50% of the relationship. I found this out after it was to late in my marriage of 26 years and because I realized too late that my marriege was falling apart, it did - we divorced 3 years ago. During the marriage we became (without realizing) too complacent with eachother, too comfortable, too used to and maybe even tired of eachother and eventually lost the ability/previledge of doing things for eachother as people in love should do. You walk in from a hard day at work and you dont greet and/or hug/kiss eachother (after all you just spent several hours/days away), there is no conversation at diner or the rest of the night, and at bed time the further that you can get from being intimate the better. It is sad but many people are at this point, some even abusing oneanother verbally/physically which eventualy leads one or the other to leave and find love/happiness with someone else. If you are like me love/relationship is forever. All I can offer as advice is this: remember and I mean realy sit down and think back in your life when your relationship started - when with eachother did you ever feel heart palpitations and you heart in your throat racing with elation because of being together, with a feeling of awe for eachother because you just could not believe the way you felt and how lucky you were to find your soul mate, or the first time you were intimate, it was like nothing you have ever known, you were two beings melded into one, and after, you were never apart, did everything together. Remember this feeling: its called LOVE the stuff that hurts when your apart, uncoditional, 100% from each partner, always on, relentless, never gives up, never gives in to hate, always available, and above all never ever one sided. Its not about money, fame, power, prestige, social standing, its about LOVE, the one and only, forever. One of the saddest things on this planet is to be in love by yourself, and another is be alone with no one to love (like me). I dont pretend to be an expert at all, in any area of life, it is simply coming from someone without fame or fortune, an average Joe with a 26 year relationship gone sour. Take this advice for whatever it is worth - re-evaluate your relationship soon, hopefully today and make all the changes necessary, if possible, to keep the love of you life, your soul mate, from leaving to find love/happiness elsewhere. Remember, it IS a forever thing. With all my best wishes for you and yours, hope this helps ...................bye

 

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