Re: How could he have done this to me? by Rima ..... Relationship Forum # 1 [Archive]
Date: 3/22/2003 11:57:52 AM ( 21 y ago)
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Hi again! What's new in the relationship? If you want to know my honest opinion, it sounds like your boyfriend is staying with you until something else comes along. If this other girl turned around and became interested, he would probably jump at the chance and leave you in the dust. Do you think that could be true? I know it sounds harsh, and I don't know him at all, but that is what comes across from what you say. He obviously takes you for granted. I know it's really hard, but I think you know what you need to do. If you need to pull away little by little, do it that way. That's worked for me before. Try to get away for a weekend without him, or spend it with friends. Call him as little as possible. Gradually try to change your life so that he is not a part of it. Maybe you will meet a really nice guy interested in you, and that will cinche it if you're ready! Wouldn't he be surprised if YOU broke up with him and was seeing someone else! Of course, you don't want to do that just to be spiteful. Do it the right way. You don't want to have regrets or have anything to feel bad about later on. Believe me, sweetie, I know it's hard. And I know that him being your first love makes it even worse. But you are in love with a memory, something that isn't real anymore. Not many people stay with their first loves. Maybe your second love will be all you ever dreamed of! I hope so. Good luck! :)
p.s. Oh, about the other girl, there probably isn't any reason to contact her at this point. She is not the problem. If you are interested in her opinion, maybe you could talk to her AFTER you break up. What does her boyfriend think of this situation? I bet it's really uncomfortable for the both of them, and the girl is just being friends because he is so persistent. That would be my guess. I don't know. Do what you think is right.
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