Date:   3/15/2003 1:38:21 PM ( 21 y ago)
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My oldest is going to be graduating the end of May. My husband and I want to go to her graduation, but we have a serious problem. Their mother.
I have two beautiful step-daughters, the other of which lives with me. Their mother is abusive, cruel, and mean. The oldest decided to continue living with her mother because she only had a year left to go of high school. They daily verbally abuse each other and the oldest got caught up in the fist-a-cuffs of that nasty family. She and her sisters like to get drunk and beat the crap out of each other. My husband is disabled and to this day their mother says he's faking it, even though x-rays, MRI's, and the judge say otherwise. When my husband has tried to talk on the phone with her just to take care of the business you need to take care of with your kids, she flips out on him, refuses to let the oldest talk to him on the phone.
We pretty much had to flee from South Dakota to New Mexico, because the cold weather in South Dakota was almost deadly, my husband was in so much physical pain, he didn't eat for two weeks and almost died. The girls knew about it and came to see my husband in the state hospital, because I had to have him involutarily committed to have someone force feed him for a couple of weeks to get his mind back. Their mother tried to tell them the reason he moved down here is because he doesn't really love them.
In the meantime, the youngest, who is very bright got really bored with high school. The child has the good fortune of having a grandfather who wants to send her through college, so after lots of counselling and what not, she decided to opt to get her GED so that she can start college a year early. She didn't tell her mother until after she took the test because her mother would try to sabotage it. I mean, the woman would try to call the police and declare my youngest a run-away. This woman called the police to come get the oldest out of bed on morning because she wouldn't get up and go to school. She's wacked. When she did tell her mother afterward and told her the good news, that she would be starting college a year early and her scores are so exceptional that almost any college will take her, her step-father grabbed the phone away from the mother and refused to let our youngest talk to her mother or her big sister and proceeded to tell the youngest that if her mother committed suicide that it would be all her fault. Normally, we would include the mom in the decision making process, but she's so toxic, our youngest simply won't tolerate it any more.
In the meantime, we're supposed to be going back to South Dakota for the oldest's graduation and I'm really thinking that it's not a good idea. I do fear that this woman may physically attack me or my husband and will put the youngest through humiliating, devastating amounts of hell. We really want to be part of the oldest's graduation, watching her walk across the stage, but my judgement is really discerning about that. I was thinking a nice compromise would be that we would do something for the oldest here, celebrate separately and give her a mini vacation instead to
celebrate her accomplishment. I don't want to hurt her, though and not show up for the stage part, but I don't want everything ruined by her mother flipping out on us either. I would just appreciate some feedback. Thanks.
 

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