Date:   3/6/2006 5:44:08 PM ( 18 y ago)
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Dear Kalliopi,

You have hit upon a human capability of enormous value.

I, too, have watched a family member go to ridiculous lengths to assure that she gets her fixes of aspartame, and NOTHING that might be better for her.

She calls it getting 'things I like', and she has a whole list of things she doesn't like.

Every time she eats/drinks anything at our house, she manages to show up in the kitchen to see what's going into the meal or snack; what she will refuse, or ask for. I don't think she even knows she is doing it.

Come to think of it, I don't think any of us usually knows that we are doing it. And, we are.

Interestingly, this lady has recently given up her custom of Aspartame pills as a coffee sweetener. She's been using them for decades, but the information that has been coming her way is so overwhelming in its condemnation of the substance that she gave up the pills. That, of course, doesn't mean that she isn't getting aspartame, and other substances, from other sources. She was touting the value of Splenda, recently, and hasn't discussed what she is popping into her coffee these days.

Two days ago my husband invited them to stay for a macaroni and cheese supper.

Homemade macaroni and cheese is one of our family 'treats'. We have always made it, say, once every three or four months. Our daughter makes it with butter-flavored shortening and standard prepared mustard. We use either butter or coconut oil and ground mustard powder or gourmet prepared mustard, and large curled macaroni.

My weaknesses are white sauce, cheese and green salads. My husband loves a toasted cheese crust and his traditional bowl. The lady's husband is dotty for garlic and onions, while she can't stand them (claims that he always uses too much), and she always loves ketchup on macaroni and cheese.

Throw in the gentleman's love of booze, garlic bread, and store-bought pie, my tendency to overeat, and the lady's manipulations to get what she wants WHEN she wants it...well it was quite a meal...a family dance, with everyone hoping that everyone else appreciated their preferences, or at least tolerated them.

Later, I came here and read your post, Kalliopi. Bingo!

So, THAT'S what we were all doing!!! Demonstrating our 'preferences'.

More than that, as overfull as I was, and even though I've made dramatic steps toward health-giving foods, I was looking for 'hair of the dog' late at night. ...And the next day.

That night I heated up some macaroni and cheese, added some of the cold sliced beets and the onion and garlic saute, and I ate it before going to sleep far too late.

My husband got up, feeling sick. I suggested apple cider vinegar in water. It worked.

I ate more macaroni and cheese the next day. So did my husband.

But, why???

We had progressed to cabbage soup with organic chicken broth and only vegetables for the entire 36 hours before that meal. (Plus one slice of homemade banana loaf sweetened with stevia and a few teaspoons of organic yogurt.)

Why did I revert back to type when I was so satisfied and happy to be on track?

I think it was this:

My husband and I both knew our guests/family weren't ready for wholesomeness. My husband himself isn't quite ready, though he makes wonderful things for me.

Above all, we are trying to be 'pleasant' to family; passing on what we have learned by example.

We chose to 'allow' ourselves a meal to our former tastes. (The makings were still in the kitchen cupboards. We didn't use the new white cheddar we had just bought! The organic salad mix, parsley and cilantro stayed in the fridge.)

Afterward, our subconscious minds were stuck in the same old programming.

I've been wanting my own best instincts to take my hands directly to only health-giving foods. I've easily chosen the best even when I was searching for late-night snacks. My husband does the shopping, and he has been choosing the best for me, plus his own slowly developing tastes.

I feel that 'instincts' are not that hard to change, but that it is difficult to alter relationships.

In relationships we try to please, and we'll 'allow' rather than 'rock the boat'.

I am back on the cabbage soup today, with a store-bought veggie dumpling. I'm feeling that my 'instincts' are ready to kick in once more. I know I do feel better with my 'alternative' choices, but I haven't yet got control of my 'social' circumstances. I guess I'd rather switch back than fight.

I think I need to tell my family members the effect the old stuff has on me, and warn them that they will get only health-giving foods at our house.

We are seniors. We have some difficulty gardening. Can you imagine what we could accomplish with willing help?

And, the next thing we want to prove is that 'blessing' our home and foods and water can protect us from harm...protect everyone from harm, as Dr. Emoto's work seems to imply.

The pendulum will be very useful.

Thanks for telling us, Kalliopi. Your posts are very important.

fledgling


 

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