Date:   2/6/2006 11:09:39 PM ( 19 y ago)
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I feel like I have fought a battle with the public & private school systems the 12 years my children have been going there. I have 3 boys, and boys are different than girls, more energy, more curiousity, etc. My boys have never taken drugs to pacify them into behaving in the same manner as girls, rather I focus on teaching them on appropriate behavior. They way I approach things might not be so pleasing to everyone. I once had a math instructor that wanted my son treated with ritalin because she was convinced my boy was ADHD, all because he was constantly distracted by a dot matrix printer that ran constantly and he sat right next to it. She refused to move him. I went above her head, she moved him, my son's distraction in that room was removed and he was able to concentrate.

With my boys, they seemed to lag behind they schools expectations of where they needed to be by a certain grade. But they were never off in where they needed to be by their own schedules. I firmly believe that each child blooms at different times, not according to some schedule. If they are being read to, they will learn to read. And they all did. The two oldest ones are now tremendous readers and independent thinkers, they youngest boy is still working on his "bloom" so to speak.

I also have experience with behavioral problem boys. They come into my house, they are taught the rules, what is okay and what isn't. And they are taught how to treat & respect themselves and others. I'm not that restritive. If they are wondering what happens to a brick when they smash it on the ground, we talk safety and the what-if's first, and then I let them experiment. I do not desire to lessen any child's curiosity, but I do try to teach them to think before they react. Anyway, these boys that are supposed behavior problems everywhere else, come into my house, and they are not. They listen, they behave, they accept discipline when necessary, they are very respectful towards me and the rest of my family. Perhaps what they need is an adult that comes down to their level and understands them, rather than degrades them, intimidates them. They don't ever want to leave my home and they can't wait to come back.

I just found out that my SIL put her son on ritalin. He is 7 and in first grade. His teacher said he fidgets too much in his seat and is easily distracted. The pediatrition agrees the boy has ADHD and prescribed ritalin. I was devastated. I've been around this boy, he is not ADHD, not even close. He is not disruptive at all. He plays and shares well with all children. He is a wonderful boy, a very normal boy. And he's being drugged so he becomes a passive child that continually sits in his seat and doesn't fidget around.

When I was told this, I did not contain my anger. My SIL was saying it like it was a badge of honor that she has a boy with a mental disease and is now on ritalin. No food elimination diet, no allergy testing, no psycholgist involved, no intelligence testing done, no eye examination done, nothing. Just "yep, he's ADHD" and a script written and he's not on a powerful drug that will do more harm than good.

I asked her to take him to an eye doctor that specializes in children to make sure his eyes are okay. (When my niece was way behind in reading, my sister took her into this doctor (on my recommendation) and my niece had underdeveloped muscles in the eye that essentially shut down after 6 minutes of focusing her eyes. He gave her eye exercises to do and told her to have my niece spend as much time outside doing "nothing" with her eyes, to only read for 6 minutes at a time with 30 minutes between reading and eventually her eyes would catch up. 4 years later, this niece is now reading & understanding at college level and she's only 11, but for the first 4 years of school, she lagged with reading and there wasn't mental problem preventing this, just the fact her eyes could only take so much.)

I asked her to take him to a naturopathic doctor about an hour away from here to have the blood allergy testing done and find out if he's got food sensitivites or allergies. My brother did this and removed all of the foods he has high allergies or sensitivities to and his health improved 100-fold.

I asked her change his diet, removing all refined sugars/flours & milk products and see if it makes any changes.

At the end of the night, her response was "we'll see". I not only asked her to do all of these things, but offered to pay for them. I also asked her to research ritalin and it's effects on the body and she told me her pediatrition said it is perfectly fine.

What really bothers me is this SIL put her oldest child (a daughter) on adderal (another ADHD drug) for 2 years because this same jackass pediatrition said she was ADHD, and after two years, it did not help her schooling at all, she still gets poor grades, so she took her off of it. It didn't help this child at all, but she agrees to put another child on a drug for ADHD. This daughter has had chronic constipation since birth (and she was a breast fed baby) and is now on a laxative so she can eliminate. She eliminates once every 5-7 days with a laxative, without it, it is once every 7-12 days, one time it went 23 days. SIL has followed the advice of this pediatrition for years in regards to the constipation and nothing he's prescribed or advised has helped this child, who now also has problems with excessive greasy skin and hair, yet very dry and flaky skin and also has cystic acne. For the cystic acne, they have prescribed a very strong antibiotic and birth control pills.

She's experienced the medical field not being able to help her oldest and seeing her oldest just get worse and worse and worse, yet she does this same shit with her next child and doesn't even think about reading and researching or anything.

What is wrong with people?

I know that I can not save every child. But God help me, I can not stop my heart from feeling this pain.
 

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