Date:   12/2/2011 12:03:46 PM ( 13 y ago)
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Well, I don't think it's dysfunctional per se. I just think that alleviating the lust in older mens sexua| perversion gives you a self esteem boost or a feeling of self worth to make up for your past experiences. For them it's probably the greatest 5 seconds of their miserable lives (certainly gives THEM a self esteem boost as they sound pretty despicable).

You get off on it and it isn't a bad thing.

The only question you have to ask is: would you get off MORE from a passionate long term relationship with an attractive, charming, funny, loving, romantic, 25-30 year old alpha male who has a great body, great career, and whom you have chemistry with? Now this is where dysfunction may come in, though not only on your part because such a man probably is hard to find (at least in america) and certainly would trigger a lot of deep seated insecurities in you during the courtship.

Then this will complicate things because your insecurities will put up sexua| barriers against him, while at the same time he senses you have had so many lustful encounters with scum, and this will trigger HIS deep seated issues i.e. "why is she putting up barriers against me while shagging those losers? wtf". yes, even alpha males have these deep seated issues (especially if you desire a loving one) the difference is that they have experience and self worth and will end the courtship and find someone less dysfunctional. Unless they just want lust as well in which case they will bed you and leave you.

The problem is that if such a man one day does pursue you, at some point he will notice these issues you have and undoubtedly it will stifle his erection and/or diminish his attraction toward you because such a man would most definitely have HIGH self worth and would not be as attracted anymore.

Like attracts like. Decide what you really want, and endeavor to develope yourself into the kind of woman your dream man himself would fall in love with.

also, I highly recommend a course called "emotional genius" by Karla Mclaren. She survived childhood sexua| trauma and went on to make SO much more out of it and has helped many thousands with her courses.

Regards


 

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