Date:   10/27/2011 6:42:18 AM ( 13 y ago)
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I am SO sorry that you had these experiences.  Blue Rose is spot-on.  There are numerous issues that you will face for the rest of your life if you choose to let your father's actions slide by.  He is clearly a predator and has used your mother, your brother, and you in any way that he saw fit, from financial support to sexua| deviance.

I feel that the most important thing that you can grasp is that you did not have the benefit of choice.  You were violated, against your will, and adults who molest children do so because they can - simply put.  When they  make these choices, they are effectively destroying a child's innocence and replacing it with guilt, shame, and "adult" burdens, and they know it.  "If you tell your mother, she won't believe you," is a common (almost rote) remark and children have no frame of reference to understand anything other than what they're told by adults.  You are not responsible for this man's choices.  He made a conscious decison and your brother has probably been violated, as well - which might help to explain his actions.

I strongly encourage you to call the number that Blue Rose provided - you'll find all the help that you'll need, AND the creature that damaged you will have to face the consequences for his choices.

Finally, you are not responsible for the issues between your parents.  You don't hold the key to who "wins" in the divorce action.  That will all come out in the wash, so to speak.  See to your own healing, and let the Court handle the divorce.

Brightest blessings to you, dear heart.

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