Re: i need help.. by arkad2011 ..... Relationship Support Forum
Date: 7/22/2011 2:09:58 AM ( 13 y ago)
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Hey, sorry to hear you're going through difficult times. I guess you're down to 2 options: Let go of him and accept the fact that he can never be honest with you or move on from that dark past and learn to trust him again. I know it's such a very difficult thing to do but you cannot just keep monitoring him for the rest of your lives. He also needs space and privacy. We're already there, he broke your trust several times and you've become so paranoid that for the nth time he might do it again. But you must know that you cannot hold on to a relationship without trust as it's the most stable foundation of a relationship. Just to share, I've been through the same scenario. I've been in and out of relationships. It's like every person that I've been with lied and cheated on me. I changed my cellphone number, email address and have my home phone numbers unpublished. I tried to run away, I moved from Brunswick to Gainesville in Georgia just to get rid of the shadow. Until one day, my ex was able to contact me on my cellphone again through this and I was so shocked. I couldn't even hold my phone and I hung up on him. The next thing I knew he was already on my doorstep and tried winning me back. Call me crazy but I believed in every word he said again because I knew that if I don't trust him, then we cannot take a step forward.
Right now, I cannot claim that our relationship is perfect but we're happy. There are still ups and downs just like any other relationship but he gained my trust back. I guess he realized that after all, I'm still the one that he wants to be with. I'm not trying to inspire you with our story but I just wanna remind you how important trust is. It's a vital part of every relationship and it should always be there.
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