Date:   5/7/2011 10:43:50 PM ( 13 y ago)
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URL:   https://www.curezone.org/forums/fm.asp?i=1809078

To John McCain,

I am 25 yrs old and still don't gravitate to children, sorry but you are wrong on that. When I was single, my rule was to never date someone with kids I didn't want their baggage nor did I want to be a parent early. My boyfriend of almost 6 yrs has no kids, even if he had a child, I would never looked his way. I have done that to men and women that I wouldn't date them if they had kids.

I enjoy sleeping in late and playing video games not catering to a child's needs every 5 minutes. I am set in my ways, I didn't like my childhood so no need for me to have children. Money is my motivation being financially stable is a goal of mine and I'd rather have pets they are easier to raise than a human child. I can deal with a screaming kitten or whiney dog, I can't stand hearing a child scream. I was at the mall last night, I saw this child scream to the top of his lungs for someone he probably couldn't get. God, I wanted ear plugs! As I said, I am the last one born in my family never had to raise any other family member's kids. I never babysat in my life I didn't want too anyway.

Of course, I have played with very few children and that's as far it will go. If I see a baby, I will say cute baby and move on. Again, I am not mentally stable for kids I am too scared of life to even raise a child. As a child growing up, I was never one of those girls who saw myself being a mother only married that is it. Let me make this clear for people: not everybody wants or needs kids, most childless people are happy without any especially if they want to fulfill their dreams. I told my old friends in grade school that I saw myself being rich and making money, I didn't have time for children. My friends at that time didn't like that answer, they felt I was "too goal orientated," one of those women who want to "go after my dreams instead of the usual fake stereotype of a woman getting married and having a family."

Times are changing, it is getting too expensive to raise a family. Look at most celebrities who are childish, they have more time to party than those who have kids. Most parents aren't into the bar scene or club scene anymore once they have kids, why do I want to listen to what their kids did all day? I want someone who has an active lifestyle but in this economy, that is hard considering nobody can't seem to keep a job because they are worried about getting laid of asap which is understandable. I am never home, if you are a parent, you have to be with your kids 24/7 except if they are grown. I can't hang with a parent who has to be with their kids all the time, sorry that isn't me. I don't know why people hate that part about me when they know I don't kids and don't want any yet they get mad when I want to have my own free time. I am not obligated to anyone's kids. If I could weigh a billion dollars and children, I'd choose money any day.

Actually, I had another question I wanted to ask. How can I make friends with people who want to go to paid places (things that cost money to do) and I have no job? I had friends who dropped me because of my financial status they never wanted to do anything that is free. They wanted to go to parties (not like that cost anything) or clubbing. I understand they don't wanna pay for me because I should have my own job/money. I am almost 30 yet I still haven't been to parties or clubs, I do not find that to be fair when there are plenty of people who don't mind doing that.

I remember in the past, I met someone who wanted me to go to a party with him. I wanted to go but he never wanted to pick me up and take me home. At the time, I didn't have a car and the state I live in (AZ), there isn't anything close by. Buses didn't run late and cab fair is expensive coming from a city that's 20 miles away. I have been invited to clubs and parties, but these people were selfish wanting me to do all the work when they knew my situation and I was honest about it. It turned out to be arguments then we went our separate ways because of their attitude problem. There was no middle ground, this person wanted to do it his way and I wanted to do xyz my way and see if we can come to an agreement yet that couldn't happen.
 

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