Date:   4/27/2011 12:26:12 PM ( 14 y ago)
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You're thinking it won't last.

I don't think he is getting it from another person... not yet. p 0 r n, yes, that I'm sure of. I have good reason to think that at least lately, but I don't know that this can last. I work from home and we live a pretty domesticated life, but when he goes back out to sea and is surrounded by whores and navy women looking to score...

We both hold to very high ideals and wanted this to be a monogomous relationship, but I am concerned about us holding to that if we don't fix this. If it ever came to light that either of us had been unfaithful, I believe it would be over.

I've been thinking about it a lot. We've been able to figure out every other problem in our marriage. I'm not ready to give up on our sex life, but yes I agree that I must take the "bull by the horns." Too bad it's not as simple as taking the bull by the c**k...

We have had great sex at times, amazing in fact. He was the best lover I've ever had. It's like there's a mental block that I haven't been able to get through. I have to find another way to tackle it, and after going through this recent period, I have an idea on how to approach it from a very different angle. I need to get him to talk more as well and to find out what about me he reacts to, because although it feels one-sided to me, nothing is 100% one-sided in a relationship.

It was really good to hear that you think 1/2 of couples only have sex monthly. I've heard indications of the weekly (or more) sex, but it would make sense that those with robust sex lives would be the ones bragging. In fact, it has crossed my mind recently that the reason cheating is so common may be because most people aren't determined enough or creative enough to get through these mental blocks where their heads get in the way of sex. The block grows over time and seems insurmountable and sex with someone new is easy. Then they have a comfortable marriage and sex with an easy partner, without the bother of dealing with their issues.

I think you're statistically right about the outcome, and I may not be one of the few that can break through, but I'm not ready to give up yet. The marriage is rewarding enough that I'd rather fight for it. Not to mention the thought of dating and having bad sex is unappealing... I remember dating well. It takes a while to find someone I like. I'm rather picky with the men.

I hope I can beat the odds. I sure do like sex but better than any sex is sex with him when he is open and fun and loving. Now I have to find my balls and grab 'em so I can confront this thing!

 

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