Date:   10/20/2010 12:06:36 AM ( 14 y ago)
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URL:   https://www.curezone.org/forums/fm.asp?i=1709755

Molly---You're right---I can't know exactly how my cousins feel about being adopted. However, I do know that they are loved by their adoptive families and siblings. What goes on deep in their minds, I can't say.

Yes, it's clear that you are "pissed" from reading your post. You are entitled to your feelings. With that said, I won't, in any way, try to trivialize them.

However, I have to ask you. With all the issues involved for adoptees---what is the solution?

What should become of the children who lose their parents or who are abandoned? Should they languish in orphanages? Or should they drift from foster home to foster home? Are they better off being taken in by family members (aunts, uncles, siblings, cousins) whenever possible? What about the kids who live in such horrific environments that, for their health and well-being, get taken from their parents?

As for my last question, it is wrenching for children even when they are removed from the parents from hell. No matter how bad things were at home, it is the only home the child knows. Yet there are circumstances where it is best to remove the child.

As for the children who are taken from their cultures---are they better off being left in orphanages in their birth countries if there is no one there to take them in?

Yes, most people do adopt for their own needs. These (for the most part) are people who want to be parents---even have a deep longing to be parents yet are unable to have biological children. Is it really so bad for them to take in an unwanted/abandoned child---especially if they can give that child love and security?

You wrote a wonderful post in the past that got a "BSA" about your experiences as an adoptee. So...I'm sure you've given this subject a lot of thought.

You said you don't want to "debate" this so I don't really expect you to respond. However, if you feel otherwise, I really do want to hear your thoughts on what should happen to all those children who are in need of parents.
 

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