Date:   6/19/2010 7:50:33 PM ( 14 y ago)
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URL:   https://www.curezone.org/forums/fm.asp?i=1640224

SoulfulSurvivor said this in her recent post---and believe me, it bears repeating:
DO NOT involve your family members in details of your exit or divorce proceedings - general and vague comments are okay, but they don't need to know because they might be coerced into talking to the soon-to-be-ex-abuser

DO NOT tell "mutual" friends about your experiences or any plans to leave - most abusers present delightful outward personnae, and "friends" that know you both are HIS friends

My mother was a narcissist plus she was verbally, emotionally and sometimes physically abusive. She, too, presented a "delightful outward personnae". As a result, when, as a child, I would try to tell others just what it was like living with her, no one believed me. On top of that, my mother would tell people that I was lazy and never helped her around the house which was not true at all.

The point I'm making is that should you start telling friends and family about the details of your divorce proceedings, they may not believe you. Also, they could well end up being manipulated by your husband into believing that you are the bad guy in all of this. You don't need that happening.

I can't stress this enough GET OUT OF THERE! You simply can't live with an abusive man who has put you in this untenable situation. You said you even have to hide baby food from him so your child can eat! Please remember this---YOUR CHILD'S WELFARE COMES FIRST!

I hope you have now taken SoulfulSurvivor's excellent advice and started working on getting out of there!
 

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