Re: For Anne_33 (and any/everybody of course :) 3 in 1 response at Natural Healing & Herbal Solutions w/Unyquity

I would say to you after reading that paragraph that if you don't deal with the health issues now, then sooner or later you ARE going to be incapacitated and then what's going to happen to your family? Yep so true I'm not trying to scare you AnneI know but if you continue like you are then you run the risk of developing cancer and that will be much harder to come back from, not impossible but harder nonetheless.and that is a fear of mine too. And in your own words you'd be "out of order" for sure and for certain. yep so true What about your family then? I know, you'd feel even worse for putting them through your illness when you could have healed yourself before it got so bad, I know that's how you'd feel. You've gotta get some balls Anne and stand up to them and stop thinking you've got to be their everything because if you don't there is a good possibility you won't be there for them to depend on at all.I do that from time to time but not regularly cause I dont like to have to bitch all the time..I am a peacemaker ..but it only helps for a few days when I do so I have kinda gave up on that one

If my son got arrested I would leave him in that jail and let him figure out what to do about it.I did I told him when he first got his drivers license that if he ever got arrested he better not call me because I wasn't going to lift a finger to help himd .yep I told my daughter that too so she didnt call me at all lol.. I taught my son right from wrong and when he turned 18 he was responsible for himself.I did that too He still lived at home with us but he knew he had to get a job and work and pay his own bills and pay for his insurance, gas and anything else he wanted. she moved out cause she didnt like the rules We bought him his first car but that's it. yep I gave her a car too which she wrecked ..the next one she bought from me . The choices he makes now are his choices and not mine or my husbands. He is responsible for himself. yep she is too but I still cant help but worry bout her..she is trying to make it on her own and wants to but she is making all kinds of mistakes right now thats breaking my heart ..I just wish she would listen ..

So here's where that generational curse comes in. Your daughter knows you and your husband drink so she's learned that from you huh? actually she never drank a drop till she went into military ..then she came back cussing/smoking and occasionally drinking ..she was always anti-drug/booze cause of her dad being an alcoholic too.but yeah The thing is Anne that you've got to show your kids the way to live their life.I do try They see that both you and your husband drink and party and whatever so basically they've been raised seeing that kind of thing.yeah but we dont as you can say party very often ..we just like to drink to unwind and relax and I so know that thats not the thing to do. See what I mean?yep i do You can't very well tell her she can't do it when she is of age to drink when she sees you and your husband doing it all the time.yep and my dad alway said I would rather you do it in front of me than behind my back so he took me out when I was 15 and got me blitzed ..messed up huh? I'm not saying that she's never going to drink, even if she never saw you drink lol, that isn't reality. true I drank before I was of legal age and I'm sure my son did too. I think all kids try things, especially in this day and age we're living in now. But the difference is you don't want to show them that its okay to live like that all the time.yeah..but thats hard when hubby does it all the time though..

It isn't going to be easy Anne but you've got to start by laying it all out for your family.I am working on that believe me but hubby is still gonna do what he wants ..I feel so alone in all this ya know.as I have tried for that past few years You've got to show your kids and your husband that it is possible to live a different kind of life. You can do this Anne, all it takes is a decision to take your life and change it. yep and maybe I have not been consistent with it but I know that needs to change Stop drinking and doing what made you sick to start with, show your kids that you don't need to drink to live a happy, content and healthy life. Just think how much easier all this stress you're under right now would have been if you weren't sick. yep You've got to take responsibility for your health and do everything it takes to get well. I am realizing that I cannot take responsibility for anyone but myself ..You've got to tell your family that you've lived your life for them all these years and now its their turn to take responsibility for running the house and give you the time you need to heal. well wish me luck on that And if they don't like it well tough shit girl!!! You do what you have to do to get well no matter what! I really am working on that and fighting my own demons here.

I've helped a lot of people through things like this Anne so I know things can be turned around. I thank you for taking the time to help me too. All it takes is a decision and once that decision is made don't let anything get in the way of accomplishing your goal. You can stop that generational curse in its tracks but you're the one who has to do it. I know Is it gonna be easy? Hell no! But it will be so worth it Anne, I promise you!I know it will Make your family understand and if they don't, do it anyway and they will come around when they see you are getting healthy. How much happier would you be if you were healthy?much ..I feel like I am falling apart sometims. How much happier would your family be if you were healthy?much happier You aren't doing your family any good running yourself down Anne, truly.yeah I know.

Okay, I'm going to stop now lol.lol..its ok..I really do get it .. I hope you take this in the way it was meant girlfriend. With loveI do and thank you. Uny and I want this forum to be a place where people can come and bare their souls and spew it all out then leave it behind and move forward. let the past be the past huh? ok I will work on that. Sometimes the truth isn't easy to hear but I guarantee you that you wouldn't hear this kind of truth anywhere else on CZ.I know thats right .. We don't just want to solve a persons health issues. Of course we want people to heal but we also want people to be whole in every area of life. If the emotional isn't right then the health suffers, know what I mean? I do know what you mean and I have a lot of emotional healing to do ..

I know you've had it hard Anne, I understand that but there comes a time when you've got to step up and leave the past behind so that you can concentrate on your future and make sure its much better than your past. When you're looking at the past you can't see the future.yep ..its so hard to wipe the slate clean and start over though when you have imbedded memories like mine. I love you Anne and I know you can do this thing! love you too Miss Willow