Date:   2/23/2010 10:30:00 AM ( 14 y ago)
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Thank you for writing back. I don't want to sound desperate nor do I want to sound like "one of those women" who stick with their abusive spouse, but...what if I'm wrong?
Since "it's" marriage counseling wouldn't there be a way to make this new counselor see the true way my husband is? Could he (my husband) take a test to "prove" to myself and my husband that he really is a narcissist? And then to hopefully work on it?
I just keeep thinking that, "what if" I'm wrong? Our other marriage counselors were women, this ones a man.

Since this is my second marriage, I waited 8 years before
re-marrying. I wanted to be sure I did it right this time.
As stated before my husband and I have been married 13 years now. And I really hate to admit, but I DO love him. Yes, I know people have said that before, but I have a hard time loving anyone, with the exception of my kids.

I was abused severely in many different ways as a child. I told myself I would never marry anyone who was like my dad or mom.
My first marriage was just like my dad. So I waited 8 years went to counseling and re-married. I thought I did it right this time. He's (my husband) never hit me, nor my children. My children have never been exposed to abuse themselves, except that they saw their father abuse me.

I hope this helps you understand why I question myself. I would hate to be wrong and throw away a perfectly fixable marriage.

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