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Time to Put the Rumors to Rest by Dr Mom ..... Ask Dr Mom: Ask Sandra K. Ellis M.H.

Date:   10/18/2009 10:24:07 PM ( 15 y ago)
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URL:   https://www.curezone.org/forums/fm.asp?i=1510031

Now that all of the questions have been answered – it is my turn. Since, there are several issues involving me, which seem to be ‘hot’ topics lately – I think it is probably a good idea to set the record straight – again. I am doing this for the innocent ones who have been caught in the cross-fire, as my accusers deserve no explanation. We are going to cover several issues, so we will do it numerically (not necessarily in the order of importance).

1. Where have I been? You have got to be kidding! I posted MaKayla’s story over 2 months ago – telling the whole planet where I was – in a third-world country working with a life and death situation. I wasn’t trying to be noble or dramatic – just sharing a situation which was brought to my attention which I felt responsible to help with.

2. Shortly after I made the post about the Philippines, another post showed up on another forum stating that anyone who paraded around suffering children was a con-artist. No names were mentioned, of course, but we all know who the post was about. The reason I know that we all knew was because after that post was made, the hits on this forum fell to half of what they used to be and, more importantly, you will notice that not one post, in over two months, has ever come on to ask how Kaylee, or I, for that matter, have been doing. We have weathered numerous 3rd world country challenges, pneumonia, heart disease, a very inadequate medical system, government corruption, jumped through numerous hoops, sat out the onslaught of a typhoon, listened to countless amounts of criticism, endured mountains of red tape and when it seemed that, after 2 months, I still would not be able to leave the country with the baby, I was able to face a lot of my own demons, as I was feeling trapped and having to choose whether I would leave her behind or bring my family there. When the demons had been faced, and I was at peace, a well worded letter from a prominent senator’s office helped us over the hump in obtaining the visa we needed. Then, two weeks ago, we arrived back home to varied reviews. However, not once, did anyone from here express concern or even curiosity about how either one of us was doing – all because one person expressed a very ignorant, naive opinion of what his impressions were.

3. Now, for true confessions – why would someone express an opinion like the one mentioned above about something that had nothing to do with him? The truth is – in a sense – it did have something to do with him because I owe him money. He generously loaned my husband some money several month ago, which is way past due to be paid back.. Although, I would never walk away from this obligation, the truth is the loan was not repaid when it should have been, which, I’m sure makes me appear as a very dishonest person. Have I mismanaged my financial affairs – probably. Have I screwed up my priorities – possibly. In other words, although he was too much of a ‘gentleman’ to mention the fact that I had not followed through on a commitment which should have been taken care of months ago, he has challenged my reputation numerous times. Obviously, he has just cause – the fault is mine – not his. However, just to set the record straight – what I was doing had nothing to do with conning anyone out of money.

4. Speaking of money – it has also been said of me that I am on the Curezone just to make money. After all, “Who is going to spend time with a forum if they are not going to make a penny for their efforts and only promote companies that they have no connection with? . . . Of course not..there has to be some reward, some gradification”. Again, to set a much misguided record straight – I have made less than $500.00 off of this forum since I started 10 months ago. So, if we break that down into a monthly income- we are looking at $50.00/month. Now, take the hours I have spent on the Curezone and divide that into an hourly income and I have made far less than a dollar an hour. Obviously, this has not been about money.

5. The ADONIS. I exchanged a couple of e-mails with him 6 months ago. They stopped rather abruptly and I have not heard from him since, through e-mail or this forum, until he felt it was necessary to “condemn Dr. Mom for abandoning her followers”. Followers?! Why would anyone ‘follow’ me? I was not here to attract ‘followers’. I was here to share what I can from my half century of experience to, hopefully, help you around some of the pitfalls I have suffered through. I thought that if each of us were willing to share our failures, our fears, our joys, our successes, and our compassion with one another – that, in so doing, we might lift each other up and eventually triumph over the challenges of this mortal experience. When I did the seminar in Ohio last January, there was a man there (whom I admire and respect), he told MH, “With the knowledge that woman has, she should be a millionaire.” He may be right. Unfortunately, for my family and many others, this has never been about money for me. I realize now that in many ways I have failed to handle this properly, but, for most of my adult life, I have believed in the (what did Adonis call it?) “the Collaboration, not competition” method. In other words, it has been my belief that what I was given came from a higher source. Therefore, it was not mine to sell – it was freely given and, in many instances, I gave it freely back. I guess you would call it “the pay-it-forward’ idea. I have spent countless hours counseling, teaching, delivering babies, fixing broken bones, removing cancer, giving away herbs, loaning money, giving away books – doing a lot of things without asking for monetary enumeration. (much to the dismay of my husband, who has told me more than once, that I am giving us away into bankruptcy) I have never asked more of anyone else than what I was willing to do myself and, usually, I expected a lot less of others. In case anyone thinks I am tooting my own horn – don’t! I am actually pointing out my own weaknesses. The point to this is – if you want to follow someone – pick someone worth following – at least, find someone who is educated, successful, wealthy (after all, isn’t that how we measure success?).

6. “Maybe she is looking out for number 1 and preparing for what’s to come”. In case no one has paid attention to posts I have made in the past, let me reiterate – I wasn’t born yesterday and I didn’t figure this out a week ago. I have been preparing for this possibility for the past two decades. Let me share a story with you I heard years ago: There once was a rancher who needed to hire a ranch-hand, so he set about interviewing several promising prospects for the job. Each one appeared qualified to do the job. However, one man stood out from the rest. When asked what his qualifications were, he said, “I can sleep when the wind blows”. The rancher was so intrigued by his response that he hired him on the spot. One night, a short time later, a terrible storm arose. The rancher jumped out of his bed and ran to awaken the ranch-hands to tie everything down and make sure the livestock and equipment were secure. When he tried to awaken the man he had just hired, he could not get him to wake up – he merely rolled over and continued to sleep. In frustration, the rancher and the rest of the hands went to make sure everything was secure. As they approached each task, they found that everything had already been done – all was secure and ready for the storm. The rancher now understood what the man had meant when he said he could sleep when the wind blows. Even though I heard this story many years ago, it has always stuck with me – trying to get prepared at the last minute, in a panic, is not always possible or successful, so I have tried to imagine what I might need to have on hand in order to take care of my own family and anyone else who needs our help. It has always been my belief that in order for any of us to survive or rise to a higher level of existence, we must be willing to work together and take care of one another. So, when that good-looking guy is wandering around “Post Apocalyptica America“ – he might just run into this old grandma.

There are many more points I could go over, but I think you get the idea. Due to the events I have been involved in, the things I have seen and heard, and some of the challenges I have chosen to face over the last three months, my life is in hyper-drive. As I have touched on in this post, I have over-due obligations on several fronts which I need to focus on – therefore, I will not be around the Curezone much in the near future. The truth is, I don’t want to be involved in this judgmental backbiting, fault finding and pettiness – there are much more important things I need to focus my attention on.

However, if I can be of assistance to any of you or if you would like to speak to me personally, you can reach me through my website or you can e-mail me directly by going to the bottom of any post I have made (my e-mail has been the same for 11 years). You are also welcome to call if you are privy to my phone numbers (they have not been disconnected).

 

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