Date:   7/29/2009 4:49:11 PM ( 15 y ago)
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URL:   https://www.curezone.org/forums/fm.asp?i=1464423

It seems to me that you both have a lot of baggage that isn't going to go away on its own. The first thing you two need to do is have a serious discussion regarding the relationship. You need to ask her point blank what it will take before (if ever) she fully trusts you again? Also, you both need to discuss if you want this relationship to be long-term leading to marriage, or not. You also need to ask her why she took you back if she isn't ready to fully trust you and get over the past.

If after having such a discussion, you both want to make this work, then seek out some counseling. If you can't see eye-to-eye, then it's time to move on.

However things work out, you've learned a valuable lesson when it comes to staying faithful.

You can't make her forgive you --- only she can do that and it sounds like she can't or won't get there. It makes me wonder just why she took you back! That's why it needs to be brought up and dealt with or, IMO, this relationship won't stand a chance.
 

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