Date:   10/21/2008 4:06:16 PM ( 16 y ago)
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URL:   https://www.curezone.org/forums/fm.asp?i=1281803

Hello Dragonfly,

The gals on this forum have been so helpful to me in the short couple of weeks I've been posting. You might go back and take a look at them because they mention what to do if children are involved. I think the hardest part for me at first was that I thought he really loved me but now that I know he is not able to feel empathy I know that he can only love me the way he loves another possession such as our house, business, his bike etc. I often wondered how he could love his dog so much and at the same time threaten to kick someone else's dog in the head if it came near ours. I thought that he just loved animals in general but that statement contridicted it and it makes much more sense now that I'm educated about narcissism. I think that educating yourself a little more about narcissism will help you too. Lately I have been thinking back to things he's done in the past and realizing his actions were motivated by his disorder. We know a woman who is also a narcissist and I've always wondered why she could live her life without love and that she would take money and material things over love anyday. I want true love in my life!! I've also read that some people who are married to a narcissist are inverted narcissist and they have to feel the punishment of the narcissit in order to feel alive. I don't think that is me but I don't want to toss the thought aside because I really do want to have a better life and if that's the case I'm willing to fix myself. I just don't want to get out of this relationship and get into more of the same. Everyday I am getting closer to a plan and everyday I see him do something narcisstic (believe me that's everday) it helps me to understand that I am making the right choice. Recently I've noticed that a lot of the people we associate with are other narcissit; I don't understand how this is happening if they aren't attracted to other narcissist, could someone clarify that for me? Does a narcissist dating a narcissist last long or what's the deal with it? Why are they surrounding us?

Dragonfly, I wish you all the luck and safety in the world!!!
 

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