Date:   8/20/2008 11:58:09 AM ( 16 y ago)
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Okay, so my boyfriend of almost two years and I have a great relationship. We have an open relationship and are both easy going about it, for the most part. I am really not a jealous person, and I understand that guys like to check out other women. I like to check out women too, and we have often hooked up with other girls. I know it would be unfair for me to get upset with him for checking out other girls when it is how he has been from the beginning, and it isn't my right to change him. However, it has REALLY been getting on my nerves lately.

He comments on EVERYTHING that walks by, and blatantly stares. I realize he expects that I am okay with it, since I like girls, but it gets old after a while. I suspect that even if I was dating another girl I would get frustrated/ hurt if she was constantly checking out other girls.

So, does this sound dumb:
My latest revelation to cope with this is to realize that my boyfriend loves me, and he just really appreciates beauty. So him checking out every other female doesn't lessen his feelings for me. In my mind, I compare it to a dog lover. If my boyfriend loved dogs instead of women, he would go crazy over every dog he saw, right? And even if he had a dog of his own whom he adored and took care of and spent all his time with, it definitely wouldn't stop him from checking out other breeds and admiring their features and personalities, etc. He might even pet them, play with them--hell, even bring another dog home... But it wouldn't change how he feels about his own pet.

I guess I'm throwing this out there to see if it sounds retarded or if it makes sense. It has actually really helped my psyche lately to put it in this perspective, and I am curious of other people's thoughts! (Note: I am not comparing myself, or any women, to dogs--it is just the analogy I came up with.)
 

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