Date:   2/18/2008 11:18:04 AM ( 16 y ago)
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Geez, by reading your post I can see why he wants out! Don't get all pissed off at me, you wanted the truth, didn't you? Yeah, you want to know things, you want the future predicted for you, you want somebody else to pay for your living standard, heard it all before.

Young ladies and gentlemen of the jury, this is a perfect illustration of why NOT to live with someone, then have children with that someone. A 4-year engagement with nothing set-in-stone from either party? Are you kidding me!??? This was destined to blow up in your face from the start. Don't blame the kids, you didn't use protection, you know how the penis and vagina work. I notice the many times you mention his money-making abilities as the provider. That takes a lot of effort in today's world, especially to have a wife, rephrase that, a live-in stay at home as a dependant...then add two kids to the mix. I'd want to get away from you as well, don't blame him! His computer is an escape...from you! His long talks on the phone with friends...an escape from you! You're moody, non-appreciative, naggy, I want I want I want all the time, spend time with me I'm bored, blah, blah, blah. What guy wants that? Answer: none I personally know. When you don't get married and make things sound and stable, sharing future dreams and wants with each other, you get chaos. Your life as you live it now with all the woes is the end result, Sweetheart. Two kids out of wedlock, a depressed live-in, and a dude who doesn't see an end in sight. I love it when you state the material possessions, you know, right after the holidays then hit him with the anvil over the head that you want out. Just after he showered you with stuff. That's a good one!

It's impossible for anyone here to fix your problems...there are many. So many layers of bitterness, I'd have to get out my thesaurus for more adjuctives to describe but you get the hint. You've got to have one of those "Come to Jesus" talks with Mr. Paycheck and spell it out one way or the other. Hurt some feelings, so what, say what needs to be said. Going the path you're on...yes, it can get worse. How 'bout the kids never see live-in because to see them would mean time spent around you. How 'bout he starts having an affair (is that even possible if you're not married?), on and on. Not doing anything is the worst possible option at this point in history. Dump the guy and you get very little in financial support, remember, you're not married. You don't work. He dumps you and where are you going to go? Mom and dad's place? Oh, that will turn out swell. Here's a plan...why don't you grow up, take the guy in your arms and tell him you're ready to make a committment to this family. Give Sugar Daddy some respect and investment in this relationship and maybe, MAYBE in a few years you'll end up as a real, traditional, well-adjusted family unit. With this caveat: if you don't love the guy, and I mean for more than the stuff he provides, really down deep...let him out. No guy deserves a wife around who doesn't really care about him. And no wife deserves a guy around that doesn't care about her. The kids are the by-products of your terrible decisions, don't burden them with any of this. But this I do know, if mom and dad aren't on the same page in the relationship...there's no hope for anybody involved to live happily ever after.
 

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