Date:   2/7/2008 6:23:33 PM ( 17 y ago)
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Heya - the anal sex thing I totally understand her side - if you try it and find it unpleasant, why do it again? I've been told it depends on the guy and if they do it right, lots of foreplay, lots of lube, etc. Ok, maybe she tried it with a more sensitive guy... nope, it just sucks, case closed. I wouldn't hold on to that one. It's her perogative on that.

On the health thing, I'm totally with you. I never liked dating someone who didn't try to be active; I couldn't see my life ending up sitting on the couch or not going out and doing interesting fun things or trying snowboarding or whatever. And to have someone who is perpetually sick and not trying to be healthy would suck in lots of ways. I would think activities would be limited that we could do (I like to hike and swim and play raquetball and dance), less action in the bedroom, more downtime, more need for sympathy, I dunno, I would find it unattractive. Health and eating habits are such a big thing that I don't think it's feasible to expect someone to change - it will just leave you frustrated. So I don't know what to tell you other than I don't think the health thing is selfish - or maybe it is in a good way. It's something you know you want - I wouldn't be stuck with an unhealthy person because that's not the lifestyle I want and because I'm not attracted to them.

It sounds like you've done everything you can with the health issue; you've offered information but if she is not interested, then all you can do is accept who she is now or decide you want something different. Good luck.
 

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