Date:   1/13/2008 6:34:57 PM ( 16 y ago)
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URL:   https://www.curezone.org/forums/fm.asp?i=1085135

Understanding the problem is not seen from the "adult" perspective, it is seen from the "child" perspective (the way your daughter sees things).

How do you react to or treat the babysitter? (your daughter is watching). The babysitter is not part of the family and your daughter wants her mommy's attention (the babysitter is only a trusted friend). You give the babysitter too much liberty and you rely on her too much.

The bunny is seen by your daughter as competing for your daughters "cuteness". Now the "BUNNY" is the star when it comes to "cuteness" in the family.

You said...
"I am the last one to have lunch or dinner after "child" (not very WARM, you did mean to say "MY daughter" [whom I POSSESS and CHERISH], didn't you?) and husband have already finished theirs" (your daughter sees that you "leave the family alone", kind of "antisocial"). Don't draw such lines between yourself and family, you WITHDRAW and alienate the family [and your daughter] ("togetherness").

"forced to tell MY DAUGHTER" (she does that on purpose because then you are finally giving her attention).

You have not taught her to TRULY "UNDERSTAND" that you are a PERSON that actually DESERVES "quiet time" ("to give me some quiet time", you want to become the KIND?type of person who DESERVES it, but CHOOSES your daughter instead at THIS AGE). Rightfully, SHE should be your quiet time (at this age, she depends on you to show her the CORRECT way to LIVE).

"since she becomes VERY demanding as soon as I sit at the table" (yes, she wants your attention IN WHATEVER form it may come).

It always amazed me that people can care so much about the treatment of animals, yet show so little sorrow and concern about WARS, violence, and the mistreatment (hatred/resentment, lack of respect, injustice, etc.) of THE HUMAN BEING (substitution, hypocrisy). This may easily be seen (children don't understand much, but they do SENSE much more than you know) by your daughter in how you ABANDON the table and put so much reliance on the babysitter. Your daughter wants YOU at the table and will not be able to recognize you as a person that deserves genuine respect until you BEHAVE as a "MOTHER" who regards her as your "QUIET TIME". She is WELL AWARE that she is THE CHILD and that she should NOT BE ALLOWED to MAKE DEMANDS of you, but you LET HER by "COMPLYING" and letting yourself be USED. You ALLOW this abuse to continue because you neglect to act as a mother (she is not happy about that), but her heartache about this doesn't seem to really matter, does it?, so she continues to make the best out of life as she sees it.

You are a MOTHER, behave as one (she wants you to, and it hurts her that you don't). She is "thrown over" (cast aside) for the sake of this "animal abuse" and all of the news media's hollwood gossip, political reports and other mundane distractions from what really matters.


 

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