Date:   3/31/2006 10:48:49 AM ( 18 y ago)
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URL:   https://www.curezone.org/forums/fm.asp?i=106704

Dear FinallyFaith,

I think you opened something which I was looking for.
When something happens I always rewind, play, rewind play and analyse the situation, and see where things went wrong and then I try to view things in all different angles when I only needed to look how I did not stand up for myself in the very beginning. (!)

In the early years, I confronted her about her not thinking about things before saying them, she swore up and down she didnt mean anything by it and that she wasn't going to change as she did nothing wrong. From that time I needed to hear this simple thing. Me pointed that out to her caused a huge fight, resulting in me feeling bad and then just covering up the whole thing and then I became an enabler in the fact that I let myself get walked on too many times.

If I were to mention all the stuff, it could fill a book. And I keep thinking of things, stillshots of scenes thats probably because I couldn't figure out why it kept happening. I just was a sitting duck and I knew it too! I was too afraid of seeming rude or selfish! One big reason was that our husbands had become close, so naturally...and we had the same friends as well. Now that has changed and I feel peace with things after I discussed a few things with my husband.

But you Finally Faith, thank you, so I shall try to stop the remembering knowing God willing it wont happen again. I know I have learned a lot through this and I know all things happen for a reason.


 

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