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Re: I am often confused (Warning: *very* sensitive material) by UserX ..... Relationship Support Forum

Date:   12/16/2007 7:40:54 PM ( 17 y ago)
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URL:   https://www.curezone.org/forums/fm.asp?i=1064300

It is easy for people to use mirrors and avoid responsibility, including therapists, who are at a loss, as to how they can help. While it is true, that who you are in relationship with, says as much about you, as it does about them, I disagree that the world is a mirror. It is more like a counterbalance. If people are walking all over you, it's not because you are walking all over them. It's because you have been a doormat. And when they start dragging their heels on you, to clean the mud out of the grooves of their shoes, it is long past time to pull the rug out from under them and stop taking their crap. Unfortunately, it is the most trusting and innocent ones, who end up realizing they've been a doormat for way too long. When the realization dawns, sometimes a sleeping giant inside them is awakened. A volcano blows. Hallelujah for it I say.

All of life is a spectrum and a continuum. Now that you are with someone who is being nicer to you, you will have to take care, because of the way you have been treated in the past, or it will be easy for you to dish it out, in the same manner...


 

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