Date:   11/10/2007 7:13:29 AM ( 17 y ago)
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Molly, you're a flipping HOOT! Of course, I can't load up the video on account of my dial-up status, but I remember watching that movie when I was a very young girl and I was so appalled that this woman was forcibly transformed by such a tyrant that I have always detested that movie. Then, to learn more about a consumate NPD, Rex Harrison was one of the most impossible actors to work with!

As for my setting a high bar, I have to say that the bar's not high, whatsoever! It's just that my tolerance bar is about an inch off the ground! LMAO!!!

Lightstream asks a number of questions that boil down to this: why do we choose people who are abusive? In my case, I believed that I could be The One to help heal the torment in my ex's soul. I believed that, with my help, he could find light, unconditional love, and release to enjoy every other aspect of life. Well, I had no idea that he had no desire to experience any of those beautiful things. Why do we stay with such people? Though no excuse is good enough, the reason is that Surviving the systematic dismembering of one's personality, inner strength, and personal goals is seemingly impossible when we are convinced, after many years of example, that we are worthless, incompetent, stupid, foolish, naive, etc. My ex did the same thing as the original poster - questioning me about my previous sexual experiences and, when I was honest, he used my own words as tools of humiliation and belittlement - USED MY OWN WORDS AND NOT HIS OWN. My stupid choice was to marry that man and enter into a legal binding contract of marriage - something that I took very seriously and attempted to force into working order. The fear of "what will happen if I leave" was always in the forefront of every decision that I made until I finally decided that, regardless of what happened, I would be better off dead than living in a sick environment that was slowly killing me.

Why are there so many people who have control issues, these days? It seems that a couple of generations have been forced to raise themselves with the most recent being raised by video games and cable/satellite TV. I'm seeing the abuse begin in relationships at younger and younger ages - girls of 12 are actually fistfighting over their little 12 year old boyfriends and referring to them as, "My man."

With the advent of women in the workforce and generating amazing careers for themselves, we have inadvertantly raised up 2 generations of women who have no idea how to BE women. My mother (a child of the 1920's) instilled in me that women have a hidden allure, something secret that all men wanted. Today, there is no allure, no mystery, no poise, and certainly no decorum. And, the result is that our teenaged girls and adult women are making some very stupid, very poor, very dangerous with regard to their choice of partners and there isn't a thing in the world that we can do about it except to help them pick up the pieces of their lives when they ask for help.

Oy......now I'm waxing philosophical.....time for more coffee!
 

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