Re: relationships by been there done that ..... Relationship Support Forum
Date: 11/9/2007 2:05:29 AM ( 17 y ago)
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That's a classic response, em_socal. You're not the first to be taken in, not by a long shot.
When people do not have a "good reason" for ACCUSING someone of doing something wrong (some people will MISTAKENLY accuse someone of stealing something from a room because thet don't know who else could have stolen it), the "accusation" is being made for an illegitimate reason (a "cover up").
1) even if they themselves have not DONE anything YET, they are sinister minded and should not be trusted (but it is EXTREMELY unlikely that they really have ever been innocent of ANYTHING).
2) when they continuously accuse you over a period of time, the reason they CONTINUE to accuse you is that "accusing" you has worked before (it is a "tried and true" method) and they have found that it works.
You KNOW that you cannot be CONVICTED of lying (and so does he), but ACCUSATIONS are done for a reason (outside of MISTAKEN circumstances).
I grew up in a dusfunctional family and was chosen to be the flunky of the family since day 1 always being on the recieving side of their frustrations and insecurities (I know evil when I hear or read of it, and that's what you're dealing with).
(51 yrs. of suicidal Depression until I outlived my whole family).
Get out of that relationship, salvage your life.
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