Date:   11/8/2007 11:29:09 PM ( 17 y ago)
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I have been in a relationship for a 1 1/2 years. The beginning of our relationship was pretty rocky due to the fact that my boyfriend was hiding things from me and was in a woman hating mentality. The last couple relationships that he has had the girls were EVIL. I mean really evil. Soap Operas can't even come up with the shit that they pulled. But I am a southern girl who moved to the West Coast, with all of my moral upbringing in tact when I met him.
I have never really been a sexual person and for me to sleep with someone right away, is very unusual, but with my boyfriend I did. I knew that he was experienced, not the degree but women can sense that about men sometimes. So I told him right away that I had only slept with 3 people before him and I was scared a little bit. He kinda of laughed it off and chalked it up to me pretending. He had never met anyone that had only had sex with 3 people! He lived in the city for most of his life, he himself and all of his friends were........VERY sexually active and so its very hard for him to believe that I am telling the truth. A year and a half later, we are still having fights over him not believing me!!!!!!! He keeps saying, " It's okay, you don't have to be ashamed. You can tell me how many people you have slept with." So I tell him,"Well, including you 4."
"Why are you lying to me???"
"I'm not. I'm telling you the truth."
"I don't believe you. I think that's just what you want me to hear and believe."
At this point I usually am very angry and upset and start yelling, which doesn't make my case any better.
I don't know what to do!!!!!!!!!!!!!! The thing is he won't even tell me how many people he has slept with, but he has such issues with my number!!! When did this become a huge problem for guys in relationships?!??!?!!? I have never ever met anyone who has criticized and not believed someone because their number was too low!! I mean I feel like I could have screwed the whole football team and he would welcome that better, than for me to believe that you shouldn't have sex with someone unless you care about them. I slipped up with him, made one mistake, so am I going to be punished forever because I was horny?!? I had a lot of guy friends growing up, so me being around men and not having sex with them, he just can't believe.
So how should I handle this?? I told him after the fight last night, which there hadn't been one in a long time, and I exploded, I didn't care what he thought anymore, I knew that I was telling the truth and I'm never going to waver from that, because it's the TRUTH, and I'm not going to get upset believe me or not. And that he is my best friend and he is not acting like much of a friend right now." But I just get sooo angry when he doens't believe me, because I have NEVER lied to him and he has lied to me, but I still believe him and he can't trust that I'm telling the truth over something soo small and insignifcant as how many people I have slept with?! Infuriating. And 90% of the time I could spend the rest of my life with him. He is absolutley amazing in all other aspects than this one stupid little thing. But how do you deal with the person you want to be with forever not believing you?!?!
So if you know any anger relievers or how to handle this situation please inform me because I'm swimming in the dark and I don't know how much longer I have before I get tired.


 

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