Date:   10/29/2007 7:55:11 AM ( 17 y ago)
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In this age of sexually transmitted disease, it
can be a valid and healthy choice to abstain from
sex until you fall in love. Unfortunately, although
you are in love, your partner is not, and imho, it
is your partner who has some sexual issues. It is
normal to want and need to be touched and for
arousal to be a process. It is normal for the
woman to also need and want this arousal. That your
partner totally skips this whole aspect to the sex
act is a red flag. Now, she is indicating an
unwillingness to even have sex with you. While it
may hurt and be emotionally painful, you may be
very fortunate to discover this now since she also
is not willing, it seems, to work out these issues
and so clearly she is not in love with you and you
are on different pages relative to what you want
and need.

You may have to consider that this person is not
the one you want to spend the rest of your life
with. Can you really imagine seven, ten, or twenty
years down the line laying in bed with an emotionally
stone cold woman??

As for your ejaculation issues, this can be worked
on by self-pleasuring and when you reach the point
of ejaculating, backing off. There are good books
on sexuality too..Mantak Chia has more than a few
you may find very helpful, and Amazon carries them
all...

http://www.amazon.com/Taoist-Secrets-Love-Cultivating-Sexual/dp/0943358191/re...

If you are determined to work through these issues
with your partner, you will have to become a strong
communicator and discuss them with your girlfriend.

If your concerns are met with indifference, do not
take it personally, just understand the best thing
may have happened and open yourself up to other
relationships which have the potential for a sexually
and emotionally satisfying union.

be happy, be well,
Zoe

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