Date:   10/3/2007 9:52:56 PM ( 17 y ago)
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Yes, I think so, one should leave. One has to leave sooner or later or else self destruct.

It's just the timing of leaving. One has to take into consideration children and finances. I cannot think of anything else that is important.

Get your own checking and savings account in your own name, and put as much money into it as you can for as long as you can. You are the one who is going to have to leave, so save up as much as you can.

When you leave, first make sure you can give a first and last months rent on whatever place you find. Make sure there is an oven and fridge in the place.

Before you go, make sure you have some food in that fridge and enough money to pay the bills for 2 months. At this point, you have hired an attorney and also have a couple of months of money to live on.

Once you walk out that door, be sure you have somewhere to go, don't count on family to help you out, they cannot understand your situation.

Take your kids with you. Very important. Possession is 90% of the law.

Make sure you get your kids to school. Then make sure you enroll them into Girl/Boy scouts, a church kids group, or something like this, and volunteer to be in these groups yourself as an adult leader.

Put aside your own pain for now, and you are good at this already being hooked up with an NPD, and concentrate on your kids. Makea sure you do this before you end up in court.

Your NPD will try to get your kids. Not that He/She wants them, but wants revenge only.

If you can prove to the court that you are a good parent, you will have no trouble at all getting custody. Actually, if you will just be yourself in Court, and he/she will just be him/her self, you will have no trouble getting custody.

We tend to think that NPD's snow everyone, but experience will show that seldom do they snow a judge. Or anyone else for that matter.

Signed, married to one of these NPD's a long time ago/and got my kids out at a young age and they turned out mostly okay.

PS. If you don't get your kids outta there ASAP, they will turn out as sick as your NPD spouse, or of you.


 

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