#77290 by AHarleyGyrl ..... Relationship Support Forum
Date: 9/21/2007 4:50:15 PM ( 17 y ago)
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Yeah, I'm still with her. She's the perfect wife morning, noon, and night, just doesn't like all that intimacy stuff, all that romance. Just wants to be "serviced" three times a month. Once before her period, once after and once in the middle. Doesn't seem to matter to her who does the servicing either. My love for her died. She killed it.
"Not for the sex either it's just fun to do - give love."
For women, they have to be in love before the sex is good in a marriage. For men, they show their love through sex. So, if a woman is not wanting to have sex with you, she is not having those "in love" feelings. This is not about sex. It is about love. If she is not responding to you sexually, you can talk to her and try to find out the problem, or get counseling or a self-help program, and it that doesn't do it, then she is the wrong woman for you. Find someone who appreciates what you do. To do the same thing over and over and expect different results, is insanity. And, blaming her hasn't gotten you anywhere except unhappy and frustrated.
"For women, the prospect of "pleasing her man" for the rest of her life is not pleasant"
I believe you are taking this out of context when applying it to your own life. It is when sex becomes the focus for the man and the woman's emotional needs are not being met, that this applies. There are many women out there in happy relationships who are having sex regularly and do not view it as "servicing" or "unpleasant".
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