you may say anything Sofia-- and I'm sorry, it seems I might have offended you at some point recently, unintentionally, I assure you. We all have different experiences...I have a child, now 23, and that is how he was treated. From the moment I saw him I felt like: oh, how wonderful to see you again, and be able to care for you. I know that's a real blessing, believe me! And I never had to teach him about the value of every being--he already knew that. The remarkable thing (or is it?)is that he never had to be "disciplined", only clearly treated with respect, kindness, and as if indeed he had once (or a thousand times) been older than me at some point. If you believe we all change places...I was not a perfect parent, but he was close to being never any trouble. Just a joy.
It is children who are ignored, or get in the way of their parents' desires and distractions, *that I note* are the ones acting out, feeling small, treating others badly, and just generally being unhappy. The world doesn't 'like' children, in some funny way it seems, and wants to get them to fit its constraints as soon as possible, so they oblige us by fulfilling that--at least some do, causing people to say things like "don't let them control you. Train them right away..."
I am not saying you are a person who ignores her child, and I don't intend to make anyone feel badly if they have an 'unruly' child. I know the world is full of suffering. But this was my experience-- and my son has turned out to be someone very lovely and strong. Giving and wise. He knows we all have our eyes closed, to some degree--and all wish to awaken.