Thats ok, most of what Im talking about in reference to love I learned from a book called 'The RA Material- The Law of One'. Its not always easy to understand, but I find it fascinating and true. I love to answer questions you might have about it, or to just hear any further ideas on the subject etc.
The first choice is to choose to see others as self, therefore choosing to serve others as the most effective/efficient method of growing/healing/balancing.
The other choice is to see other selves as seperate from self and to manipulate them for the benefit of self.
So the choice is to serve other selves or to serve the seperated self. Obviously all will do a combination of the two at differing points in their incarnated experience(s). The idea is to not get caught up in loops going back and forth. An out-right choice leads to growth/power/spiritual awareness. All learn the same.